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Bad Reaction To A Crystal? Why & What to do

Bad Reaction To A Crystal? Why & What to do

Bad Reaction To A Crystal? Why & What to do

Can you have a bad reaction to a crystal? What does it mean if you have a bad or negative reaction to a stone? Should you continue using it or is it not right for you?

I occasionally get asked are about these types of experiences. I don’t think they are common experiences in the world of crystal healing, which is why people can be surprised when this happens.
There seems to be little info in books about it or what to do when this happens. Hopefully, this blog post will throw some light on this for you.

bad reaction to a crystal (tumblestones)
You can have a bad reaction to a crystal

Signs of A Bad Reaction To A Crystal

What constitutes a bad reaction to a crystal will vary depending on each person. this is a guide to the most common symptoms I hear reported by someone after either holding or wearing a new crystal.
Please note, there are many other reasons you could experience the following symptoms, which may not be related to the crystal at all. If they persist for some time after the stone is removed it is very unlikely to be the crystal and you may even need to see a doctor.

1. Suddenly feeling nausea

3. Feeling compelled to remove the crystal

4. Discomfort in one of your chakras

5. Sudden headache around the Third Eye

6. Feeling ‘terrible’ for no reason

7. A burning sensation where it touches your skin

8. Feeling very dizzy or ungrounded

9. Nightmares when sleeping with the crystal

10. Feeling sudden negative emotions

11. Feeling a sudden pain in the body

Bad reaction to a crystal?
Bad reaction to a crystal?

So, What Do You Do If You Have A Bad Reaction To A Crystal?

Always listen to your body. I do not recommend you expose yourself to a crystal if it makes you feel bad, unwell or you experience any form of discomfort. Discontinue use immediately until you feel better and know more.
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3 Reasons Why You Might Have A Bad Reaction To A Crystal:

1. The Crystal Contained Some Negative Energy

It is easy to forget that when you handle a crystal in a shop or one that you bought online, it’s very unlikely that it has been cleansed recently if ever. Crystals are sensitive tools and pick things up along the trade route, postal system or in shops from customers.
There may be nothing wrong with the type of crystal, it might just need cleansing. Always cleanse anything you buy before use.

TIP: When handling crystals in a crystal shop, try to avoid placing the crystal into one of your Major Chakras.

Chakra chart

I am still hearing from people when I ask about their bad reaction to a crystal, that tell me they haven’t cleansed their crystals. Sometimes they say that someone on the internet said they don’t have to…
Please use discernment online. There are people on the internet that will tell you that you don’t ever need to take a shower or eat any food. Despite what Caitlyn on Youtube tells you after using crystals for 2 weeks, always cleanse your crystals, especially when they are new.
Energetic cleansing is a fundamental part of working with crystals and helps avoid absorbing other peoples negativity. Please see my Guide to Cleansing Crystals if you’re new to this.

Palo Santo and incense sticks
You can cleanse crystals with sustainably sourced Palo Santo, Sandalwood, Sage or other methods

2. The Crystal Did Some Deep Healing Work

Spiritual healing, just like physical healing is not always comfortable. Occasionally a crystal will trigger a detoxification process which brings up negative energies or emotions so that they can be released. You can experience these types of reactions to all kinds of alternative therapies, though this is not normal.
If this is the reason for the bad reaction to a crystal, it could be a blessing in disguise. Saying this, I still do not recommend spending too much time with a crystal that is so strong for you. Discontinue use for now.
You may not want to experience deep healing right now or bring up an emotional wound from your past (and that’s okay). You might prefer to work with something more gentle over a longer period of time.

Amethyst crystal point
Amethyst may cause sharp pains or a headache when placed on the Third Eye Chakra. Stop and limit healing times if you’re uncomfortable.

3. The Crystal Is Not Compatible With Your Energy

I left this one until last as this is the most common conclusion people assume is the reason they have had a bad reaction to a crystal. Normally when a crystal is not right for you, (at this time in your life) you won’t feel drawn to it. Or, you try it for a while and it does not seem to help you.
In very unusual cases, you might get a strong negative reaction from a crystal that is not right for you. It is like your body is repelling you from working with that crystal. It could simply be that the crystal is too strong for you or clashes with your energy.
Everyone is different, regardless of what I or other sources recommend, you must consider your experience with a crystal. There may be better options available to you, try other stones with similar properties and see how you feel with them.

Moldavite is well known for being a very powerful stone and one that some people have bad reactions to. Always go slowly when trying new stones and don’t force things.

How Do You Know What The Reason Is?

PLEASE READ BEFORE COMMENTING Please read the entire article above carefully. Only you will know if the crystal was cleansed before use if it was your own. If this is the case, give the crystal a good cleanse and then try it again the following day and see if you feel any different. If you still have a bad reaction then consider the other two possibilities.
For the other two reasons explored above, think about the properties of the crystal. Does it have cleansing, healing or detoxifying properties? Is the stone known to help heal or release emotional pain, karma or trauma from the past? Does this make sense to your life?
If you’re a very intuitive or psychic person you should tap into this and see what your spirit tells you about this experience. You may want to meditate on it for answers, but only when you are feeling more relaxed and not in any fear.

bad reaction to a crystal - Different crystals in a chest
Green, blue-green and pink crystals often heal the emotions

Testing Your Crystals

With incompatible stones, technically you would get a similar reaction every time you held or wore the crystal or any stone of the same mineral. You should cleanse your crystal straight after you have had any bad reaction. Give the crystal a break and try it again at a later date (when you feel ready) and see if you feel the same.

Adjusting To The Energy of Your New Crystals

I think it is better to take your time to adjust to the energy of any new crystals. Especially if you know they have a reputation for being quite strong (Like Moldavite) or they are considered to be a ‘high vibration’ stone.
You can spend short periods of time daily with a new crystal and build up to carrying or wearing it all day if needed. As always, if you feel unwell or discomfort, just stop. For more about this topic please see my guide to What To Do With New Crystals.
Have you ever had a bad reaction to a crystal? Please share your experience with us in the comments below (PLEASE keep any questions you have concise and stick to this blog post topic if you want a response).
With gratitude,

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299 thoughts on “Bad Reaction To A Crystal? Why & What to do

  1. Tamara Rizea

    I have at least two “simptoms” when I wear shungite. I will give it a deeper cleans, or start wearing it for a short period of time. Especially that the crystal is so useful. Thank you Ethan for the post.

    1. Nicola

      I am aware that I’m having negative energy projected to me, so last night, I worked with the HEMATITE. It was cleansed. I Meditated and it showed two people I know talking negatively about me.
      Today I feel sick. My tummy is making loud noises, now feel so cold I have goose bumps!
      I did a longer meditation after to gain some guidance , a life changing choice I’m making. It was beautiful, so I’m not sure why I feel so ill. I also have a headache. What did I do wrong?

      1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

        It’s hard to say as that can also be a symptom of psychic attack which started before you tried your crystal. You could also try other crystals, everyone is different and some will always work better for one person than for another.

        1. Khushi

          Hello Ethan,

          I am new to crystals and friend gifted me a rose quartz necklace. I started to wear it and I would not sleep peacefully in nights and would always stay awake. After a while I started to feel pricking pain in my chest specially on left side, I cleansed the crystal but I continue to have this pricking pain. I got it removed, could you please advise if this is because the crystal is healing my heart chakra or is it because the crystal is not good for my energy?

          1. Sam

            Hi Khushi, I believe that you are correct when you ask is it healing your Heart Chakra. Rose Quartz is the stone of love and it is a heart chakra stone. The pain that you are feeling is your heart chakra opening and over time and with continued use your heart chakra will balance and come into alignment. Your friend gifted you the stone with love and it is doing what it is meant to do and the right time in your life. Work with it gently and slowly. Namaste.

          2. Cherry

            Sam is spot on here: your Rose Quartz is working on your heart chakra. Please don’t be alarmed, but do continue to wear and work with it — the prickling should wear off shortly, and if it’s a bit much to handle, then only work with your necklace for short periods of time. You should find it goes away, and believe me, you’re better off with your heart chakra open, than with it closed.

            Love and Light.

          3. Donna

            With a rose quartz, this just happened to me. Same “prickly” painful feeling on my left side…heart area. Kind of freaked me out.

        2. Lori

          Ethan! I found this page in a frantic search after I got a shungite and placed it in my pocket for an hour. After which a large red welt appeared as an enlarged bruise with red lines running through it. Hours later it is still throbbing and hot. My stomach cramped when it was in my pocket but I didn’t put it to the shungite. I got it because I am new to energy work but feel vibrations in my hands constantly and wanted to ground and protect. I felt the roco vibrate so figured it was calling me. Why did I have such an intense reaction to it? I must be the 1% of people to have a physical bruised welt from 1 hour in a pocket.

    2. Cherry

      Tamara, Shungite is powerful stuff. You can probably get nicely used to it, but it’s advisable to start out with short periods of exposure and work up slowly.

      Love and Light.

    3. bridget

      I wore a Shungite necklace for less than 24 hours. The stone was cleansed and given to me by my spiritual coach. I had been spending the previous 2 weeks activating/balancing/healing my root chakra.
      The first night of wearing the Shungite necklace I threw up 6 times. I had not eaten anything out of the ordinary and had not been exposed to anyone sick. I then realized it might be the stone. Maybe it is literally purging the negativity out or possibly not the right stone for me. I took the necklace off and almost immediately felt better. I messaged my SC right away and she explained how this can totally happen! She encouraged me leave it off, get some sunlight and begin working on my sacral chakra. She also brought up how I’m probably the type who releases trauma in a physical and emotional way. Which is so true. Especially when being adjusted by chiropractor or doing yoga. So up I go to the sacral! Apparently I’m in for a ride! Any suggestions on crystals to use while working with this chakra?

      1. Maria

        Did you try wearing it again? I have been wearing a shungite necklace for the first time for the last 4-5 hours and I am starting to feel weird especially in the chest where the shungite is sitting. I don’t know if I should take it off or if it is actually doing me good/cleansing?

    4. Maria

      I bought and wearing a shungite necklace for the first time. Been wearing it for 4-5 hours and feel this weird feeling in my chest exactly where the shungite is sitting. I can’t explain it. I don’t know if I should take it off or not. What are your symptoms?? Thanks!

      1. Jen H

        I seem to have the same symptoms every time I put on a Shungite necklace. I feel a tightness in my chest around the pendant or in areas the necklace touches. I feel like I’m being suffocated. I immediately take it off. The energy is just too strong. Oddly enough, when I wear a Shungite bracelet, I don’t seem to experience any negative feelings or symptoms. I have also had problems with high karat Tigereye necklaces. I feel like all my energy is being drained. Not sure whether it is the amount of Shungite that is the problem, or the area of placement, but would like to hear about other peoples “encounters”.

  2. Iren

    The only time I’ve had a strong reaction to a crystal, it was when I placed big Amethyst cluster bed near my bed. I was having a nightmare, it was before I’ve read Ethan’s commendation not to use Amethyst this way… When I was buying this crystal, I so drawn to it, I couln’t leave without it. I’m still sure, this is a right crystal for me. I have to say, Ethan’s books and posts are priceless.

          1. Monica Maia

            I meditated with an amethyst on my third eye for the first time yesterday and that area really started to hurt. Shouldn’t I use it anymore?

          2. Sam Hartridge

            Hi Monica

            Meditating with crystals can make an area “hurt” or feel strange, that can happen when the chakra is opening up / balancing / activating / healing the area. In my opinion, meditating with your Amethyst is absolutely fine, but you may need to limit your time with it initially and build up. But please remember, not everyone gets on with every crystal – I don’t like Black Obsidian, so go with your gut instinct. Try again and if you keep having the same reaction put it aside for a while and try again in a few months time.

            I have learnt that there is a time when a crystal will work with me – which means I need their direct energy and healing attributes and a time when they won’t – when I don’t need their direct energy and I leave them to do their “thing” gently in the background – your amethyst could be telling you that now is not the time.

            Love, light and blessings to you

    1. Cherry

      Iren, if you were so powerfully drawn to this cluster, then it was definitely meant for you. The only problem with these clusters is that they have very potent psychic energy which, while lovely to meditate with, has a tendency to disrupt sleep.

      Love and Light.

  3. Angelina Lotus

    I have a one room apt.So I have all my crystals in the same room and I have many. Most are at my dresser at the end of my bed.There is 2 meters or so between the end of my bed and the dresser.I also have bedside tables with crystals and stones on on each side of the bed. One side, next to my head.I have large crystal points,ametyst and all kinds of crystals.

    I do not have nightmares .The only things that is to much for me is if I have a group of clear quartz standing on the beside table next to my head.

    Blessings and crystal love to you all.

  4. Debbie T

    I’ve had a few bad reactions to certain stones (after cleansing). The first, K2 stone – made me feel extremely ungrounded and out-of-it. A similar experience, I had with Preseli Bluestone – can’t bear to touch it! The biggest reaction was to Moldavite. When I first held it, my ears buzzed very loudly. I slept with it under my pillow, and woke up to seeing a bright flash of light and a loud noise. In fact, I believe that Moldavite set up a few negative experiences in my life, over a few months. I ended up burying it at the end of the garden!!

    1. Anna M Perez

      I’ve learned that when Cleansing stones check what stones can be cleansed properly. Some can not be cleansed with water because of the chemical makeup of the stones like what minerals & metals they contain.

      Some can be cleansed my using a Sage stick & Palo Santo, Sea Salt, Rose petals, Selenite or other crystals that can help cleanse other stones, not all crystals need cleansing, some can be placed in the Sun all day or Moonlight at night…But, if placed in Sun some can discolor.
      Its best to do your own research or purchase a crystal book for referencing, or google it.

      Some raw stones are ones you should be careful in cleansing with water if metals are in them they could easily rust.

      Also, the polished ones could also pose a problem if they are put with others. So, do research when pairing certain stones.

      Always meditate with new stones I was taught because some may hold a stronger vibration than others & they need to sync with your bodies vibration & frequencies.

      Holding the new stone in your receiving hand (left hand) & holding a grounding stone in your right hand when meditating with it a lil bit at a time until your body syncs with the stones vibration.

      I do know that Moldavite is not a stone nor crystal but a tektite (meteor that hit earth billions of years ago) & if you think about all the vibration & energy up there in the cosmos then this is what this tektites energy feels like.

      When I experienced it at the crystal shop to told me to hold a grounding stone in my right hand so that will not be left feeling a woozy & lightheaded because we all experience different things with certain stones, crystals, tektites,etc

      So, I do know you may & may not feel the same as everyone for instance my arm felt all warm & I felt a tingly sensation.
      A lady standing behind my friend & I said she felt alot of hotness up in that area of the store so it was the heat energy coming of the very small pieces we held in our hands. And also, Im a member in fb of a group called the Moldavite Society & in that group people put pix of their moldavite pix & others put stories with the moldavite experiences they’ve all had good or bad with moldavite.

      So, Moldavite is known for being transformational & if you are not ready to make the necessary or wanted, needed changes in your life do not experience it unless you are truly ready because if you are not ready…Moldavite will force you to purge it out of your life!

      I do know personally I really didn’t handle it much & owned like 4 half the size of a dime pieces & were kept on a small plate on my dresser….I couldn’t find a piece of 1 oneday & no one ever messes with my stones in my room. But, have heard sometimes they disappear & reappear again…Go figure!

      I also remember my mom saying she could not ever understand why my room felt the hottest of all the other rooms in the home. Wasn’t till I remembered my lil stones hold so much energy from the cosmos & thats why my room had so much heat in it!!!

      Moldavite I read a store that this ladies mother mad her so very ill when handling it she would faint. So, we are all different & some crystals may affect us all in different ways

      Namaste to all & may you all use crystals for the greater good of mankind for healing us in health or illnesses & keeping our Prayers to God that he will allow these crystals to be used to help those of us who need healings in many ways!

  5. Shannon

    I work with a lot of high vibration crystals and have had bad reactions to a few. Celestite, Nuumite, Tiger Iron, Creedite and cactus/spirit quartz are the crystals that I had to work up to using, because the physical reactions were so strong. For Celestite, Nuumite and Tiger Iron, the reaction manifested as a tightness in my chest. Creedite (which to be fair, was spiky all over like a cactus/spirit quartz) gave me severe headaches for a few days after I bought it, even from another room. I only got relief after closing the door to the room that it was in. And cactus quartz had such an overwhelming energy I couldn’t be in the same room with it for about three days. I have found that if I sit the crystals on selenite to clear them, their energy is less aggressive after a few days. And now that I have adjusted to their vibrations, I can work with any of them daily, if I want to.

    I have heard that a bad reaction from any crystal corresponds to a chakra issue to be worked on, and that by placing the crystal on that chakra you can help alleviate the bad reaction. I am still experimenting with that.

    Funnily enough, I don’t remember Moldavite being one of the crystals that set me off, even though I was prepared for that to happen.

  6. Julia Flint

    The worst experiences I’ve had are with amethyst. I’ve sensed every single one of the symptoms, Ethan described above. I have tried numerous times with different specimens – tumbled and jewelry.
    Black obsidian is another stone I’ve had difficult times with, as well as with the so called rainbow moonstone (labradorite in white matrix) – having nightmares, experiencing anger outbursts.
    Ethan, this post saved my life and faith 😀 You gave me a good piece of advise how to give them another try.
    Thank you!
    P.S. If you can add any piece of advice on using the rainbow moonstone, it would be of immense help.

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      I have had a very bad nightmare with Rainbow Moonstone so I don’t sleep with it but can use it throughout the day. Traditional or common Moonstone is gentler, you could stick to that or combine with Black Tourmaline or other grounding stone.

    2. gels1

      Thank you for sharing your experience with Rainbow Moonstone – I’ve been researching my bad reaction to it, and all I’ve come across is how wonderful and peaceful and healing it’s supposed to be! I was feeling crazy because even after cleansing several different ways (full moon, running stream, white sage smoke), I was still getting these weird ringing aches below my ears that wrapped around the back of my neck and under my chin. I even put the stone away for a whole year while working with other crystals, figured I’d give it another try, and still had the same reaction. This one is just NOT for me!

      1. Cherry

        It might help to understand exactly what Rainbow Moonstone is. ‘Normal’ Moonstone is Moonstone, plain and simple; but Rainbow Moonstone – and Blue Moonstone – are actually Labradorite with a white matrix instead of grey/green/brown. That could be the reason you’re having problems with it, especially at night: like ‘normal’ Labradorite, it’s a powerful psychic booster.

  7. Julia

    One time some men give me a very little piece of moldavita, I felt like very nervous with it so i put in the dumpster then a week later i went to buy one because I felt like she was calling me and I felt the same.
    Then I said you call me so I am wearing you and now I feel nothing,Ethan is this good or bad

  8. Andrew

    I bought a Hematite polished tumblestone online back in March with a few others as I was just starting out. It looked nice, quite heavy. However from the moment I held it I wasn’t sure about it. So I smudged it along with the others and left it out in the full moon. I spent time with it but always got a negative vibe and if I took it outside I would have a bad day. So much so that I put it in one of my indoor plant pots and haven’t been able to bring myself to look at it or hold it since. I’ve since had a bit of an emotional meltdown. Not sure if it’s that. But certainly since it entered my home my negative outlook has worsened. It may simply be a concidence. Along with the fact that the plant in the plant pot I put it in is pretty much dead now. I want to remove it, but for some reason I am worried by doing that, more negativity will come my way. Any ideas on what I should do with it? I know it’s not the one for me but not sure whether I should pass it on, pop to the shop and leave it there, throw it out with the plant pot? I don’t have a garden to bury it in and even then I wouldn’t want to be near it or pass it. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      I think you must be careful you don’t get fearful over the stone. If the plant has died then you might want to put it into a bin bag and throw it out. I wouldn’t normally suggest this but as it is buried and you don’t want to touch it this is all I can think of. Afterwards do a good house clearing and try to get on with your life.

    2. Sonal

      I have had a very bad experience with azurite malachite. I cldnt connect with it and slowly all of my three pets started to fall sick. My beagle had strange scratch marks on her face tht never happened before, my tibby developed severe fungal infection and my neww pup cocker Spaniel remained very thin with stomach infection.

      1. Iren

        Sometimes pets and even plants protect us, so they take what suppose to affect us on themselves, maybe that was a case. And maybe it was something wrong with the stone itself, not because this is the azurite malachite, but something just happened to this stone….? Have you cleansed it before using it?

  9. Sheila

    It’s only happened to me once. I had a bad reaction to a black jet pendant with a dragon on it. I cleansed it in the sunlight before wearing it. When I put it on I felt an overwhelming heaviness. I’m not sure if it was caused by the stone or the dragon energy. Maybe the sunlight cleanse added additional fire energy to the dragon energy. Also, my sun sign is Cancer (a water sign), so you know, fire and water etc. Lol!

  10. Victoria Davis

    I saw a ring with five amethyst set in it. When I was looking at it in the display case something grabbed my arm and made it burn. I heard the words “that is mine” very clearly. When I picked up a amethyst candle holder I felt a chocking sensation. I put it down and found out that they would go search abandoned houses and loot them for stuff. Pleas be careful of where you get your items, as they might have an angry spirit attached to them.

  11. Trish

    I’ve had very interesting experiences with the crystal Elders. When I first started on this journey, I was introduced to a woman that owned a crystal shop. She had one room with about 10 flats of all clear quartz crystals in various sizes and types. I couldn’t be in the room with the crystals because every time I did….I got a severe migraine that would end a few minutes after I left the shop. Too much “high voltage” energy for me at the time. Now, I have a few dozen pieces of quartz and their energy is awesome.
    The worst “reaction” I ever had was with a large smokey/clear quartz combo that had an enhydro. It is a beautiful Elder that I purchased from a collector I had purchased from many times before. He always packed his boxes with white sage leaves. When I held it after it had arrived….just pulled it out of the shipping box to look at it….I felt a very strong “pain”, like a deep hurt from the Elder. I put it outside in the sun for a few days. I know, sunlight is “bad” for crystals (fading, etc), but it was at the full moon, and I was not going to resist the calling of where I was to put it and for how long. It also didn’t get full sun all day. After a couple of days outside, I brought it back in the house and sat with it. I still felt a deep hurt coming from it when I held it. I sat with it for a few minutes a day sending it messages of love and peace, that it was safe, honored and wanted. It took a few months, and when the Elder was ready, it gave me a flash of images. It had been taken without honor or respect or given an offering, and it was not asked if it could be taken from its home. It was unceremoniously stripped from it’s home and family very rudely and painfully. The Elder and I have been able to work together peacefully since then.

    1. Cherry

      I had a similar issue with a small Golden Quartz cluster I bought online last year. Even through a digital photo, I felt its energy tugging at me to buy it, and since it was very reasonably priced and I’d been on the lookout for one of those, I did.

      It was absolutely miserable when I received it: if it had been a human being I would have diagnosed depression, it was that bad. I’m a crystal whisperer with a knack for helping distressed crystals, so I immediately asked for help to understand the problem.

      Turned out the poor thing had been taken from its birthplace without its consent, and it had been less than happy for that to be done. It had been sent a long way away, to North Wales, then to Merseyside from where I got it, all without so much as by your leave. I guess it’s like me, a homebody. It was utterly miserable.

      The amazing thing about this one was, it was actually born only a mile away from my home. When it realised – mainly because I physically showed it, allowing it to see through my eyes – that it was back where it wished to be, it lost the depressed outlook and became an extremely helpful and harmonious “close personal” which stays with me no matter where I go.

  12. Sam

    I remember purchasing a Black Obsidian, along with others, from an online shop that is actually one of Ethan’s preferred suppliers, which was calling to me, but the moment that I held it I took an instant dislike to it, but I also knew that I was to keep it. I left it sitting in my pot of daily crystals to do it’s thing for over 2 years. Occasionally I would pick it up to see if it was time to use it, but always had the same feeling.

    One day I was getting ready to meet a friend of mine that has an affinity with Black Obsidian and whilst choosing which crystals I was to use that day, it literally jumped out of the bowl onto the carpet and I knew that I was to give it to my friend that day. I cleansed and programmed the crystal to work with him and he connected with it immediately and now has it with him daily.

    Crystals come into our lives that are not always for us, but are for us to give to others that we know or meet (I have had this happen to me so many times) and they also come into our lives as they are the right crystal for us, but it may not be the time for us to use them. Just leave them in the background to do what they need to do. You will know when it is the right time to work with it.

    Crystal blessings to all.

  13. pg

    When I was quite a bit younger (late teenager, maybe early 20s), stones sometimes could seem too intense for me to want to handle. This was before I had learned anything about crystals, and I wonder if it was more of a psychometric response than a response to the crystals’ energies.

    One of my friends gave me a big cluster of clear quartz when I was maybe 18. My instinctive response was to bury it under a tree. I remember also handling earrings with a stone that I think could have been chrysocolla and feeling uncomfortable. Lapis, or lapis in jewelry, has been somehow uncomfortable at times. I feel like with lapis (when this has happened) and the stone that might have been chrysocolla (was a deep / dark blue-green), there was sort of a harsh feel. It may only be because I now know that lapis is associated with the third eye, but i feel like it was a sense of discomfort ‘in my head’ somehow. Not a headache, but just a bit of a harsh feel that is hard to explain, didn’t feel so good. Again, the psychometric side of things could make sense, especially for stones that are in jewelry perhaps?

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      Yes, quite possible, which is why I recommend cleansing new crystals of old vibrations. Also if you use my method for consecration of crystals it will be even more effective and stops your crystal from being reconnected to anyone who feels attached to your stone.

  14. Jack Whelan

    Thank you for your excellent blog! This is an interesting topic. Personally, I don’t think of crystals as ever being negative. To me it’s simply that the crystal and I are not yet energetically/vibrational aligned. I have found myself very attracted to celestite, moldavite, labradorite, and obsidian, but have had to put them away due to them causing me to become dizzy or lightheaded, and unable to focus. This only happens if I am acquiring a new stone. I put them away when this happens, but I also ask myself some questions about why I may have had such a strong reaction. Have I done what I can to align and balance my chakras? Am I properly grounded? Have I cleared and programmed the crystals I am using? I then go to some of my favorites that have helped with my chakras and grounding. After clearing and balancing myself and the stone I can usually try again in a few days or a week or so. In all cases, I have been able to eventually align my energy with the crystal, and they have become some of my favorites.

    1. Cherry

      Hi Jack,

      Your thinking is spot on: crystals are, in and of themselves, incapable of negativity.

      Sadly, the same cannot be said of some of those who work with their energies; and of course there are people who will pollute a crystal with negativity with no ill intent at all, by accident as it were.

      The cleansing and bonding process a crystal worker should always undergo with a new crystal, is exactly as you state: the process of ensuring there are no pollutant/lingering energies, so that what’s exchanged is intrinsic energy alone, and aligning crystal and user. It’s for this reason that, when I bring home a new crystal, I remove all others, even the same type, from my energy field and immediate vicinity, so that not only do I get a clear read on the crystal’s intrinsic energy and that alone; it also gets only my intrinsic energy. I’ve found this is the best way to ensure a good connection with a new crystal, and it’s a practice I heartily recommend.

      Love and Light.

  15. Monicakrista Andersen

    I Bought an Iolite also known as a water safire.
    I gave me a strong headache right beside my 3. eye
    I was taken by surprise but it balanced and clenced
    out so quickly and I felt realy big discomfort . so I jus put it away
    and used for shorter periods of time and the problem disapired .

    1. Cherry

      I also bought an Iolite, a pear faceted pendant, 20 years ago. For a long time I couldn’t wear it; it made me dizzy and headachy, and although I am, without wishing to brag, a skilled and experienced crystal whisperer, I couldn’t get a word out of it. That normally only happens if the stone is wrong for me. But I sensed I should persist, wait, and not move it on.

      A lot of time has gone by, but now, the Iolite is working like a dream. I even sleep with it on occasionally, and it seems very effective at soothing me and preventing nightmares. Funnily enough, it’s calling to me to be worn as I write!

      You’ll probably find it’s just matter of it and you getting used to each other. Don’t give up: Iolite is wonderful stuff!

      Love and Light.

  16. Tracy J Redhead

    I repeatedly had a bad reaction to a Malachite pendant which belonged to my mother. I wanted to wear it, but every time I considered this while holding the pendant I felt nausea, repulsion, and what I can only describe as a feeling of “extreme dislike” towards the stone. It always puzzled me, but the feeling towards this particular stone never changed, so I eventually gave it away. Reading this blogpost reminded me of this experience, and as I thought about it, I had a revelation. I own another piece of malachite (not a jewelry piece), which I keep in a set of chakra stones, and don’t have the same reaction to that. My feeling is very neutral towards it. Without checking, I now seem to recall that Malachite is good for absorbing negative emotions/energies/illnesses? I’m now thinking this particular piece (the pendant) had perhaps absorbed some bad “stuff” which I was very sensitive to, so it was the individual piece and not malachite in general. My poor mother died a very painful death from colon cancer, so I think this piece of Malachite held some very negative physical and emotional associations for me. Thank you Ethan, for triggering this understanding for me!

    1. Cherry

      Hi Tracy,

      I’m very sorry for your loss, and deeply sorry, too, for your Mother’s pain and suffering.

      It’s probable that the Malachite pendant has absorbed the suffering of your mother’s final days in this life. She’s free now, and that’s blessed; but her pain lingers on. It’s also possible the stone was warning you not to wear it until that energy has been cleansed.

      Try cleansing the crystal; it’s highly likely that it wants to be rid of that energy itself, but you obviously don’t want it propagating onto you. Try any chemically safe method you like (Malachite being a copper-rich mineral, I would not recommend water cleansing or exposure to moisture). If it doesn’t work, then I recommend you find an experienced crystal worker/whisperer or a qualified healer who can help you to save your Malachite. I would happily help you with it myself, and free of charge, but I very much doubt we live close enough to make it worthwhile.

      Love and Light.

  17. Shonda Schoepke

    I have had several exposures to Himalayan salt rocks/crystals. I can walk into a store, come within 15feet of this type crystal/rock and get a burning feeling in my right hand. If I put the rock in my hand, I will get a visible 1st degree thermal burn. It will shoot pain up my arm causing me to drop the crystal. This is the only crystal, so far, that I have this sort of reaction to. I have stayed away from this type of crystal for this reason. I have tried halite & selenite without any problems. Suggestions appreciated.
    Thank you in advance.

    1. Cherry

      Shonda, something is warning you off this kind of crystal. Such a violent reaction to it means one of two things: either there’s a basic incompatibility there, like trying to use an Android app on an iPhone, or the energy exchange is so powerful that you can’t cope with it in your current position.

      This is pretty rare, but can happen. I’ve never in 33 years had a thermal burn from a crystal, but I have a very, very special Clear Quartz which only works with me; it electrically shocks anyone else who touches it! My mother, grandmother, husband and best friend (a qualified Reiki healer) have all been shocked by it. Strange. The only thing I know that explains it, is that this crystal is bonded to my soul and has come back to me in this life after working together in the last.

      Love and Light

  18. Patty

    Hi Ethan, I agree with what you have written about Negative Energy with Crystals. I have a granddaughter than can see people that have past since she was 3 yrs old. However she started to become afraid on then. I had my some get 4 crystal, cleanse them and place them around the apartment. They worked great. From time to time they would stop working and she would get visited. So I have thought her how to cleanse, energize them and pace them back around the house. Anytime she starts to fell off, she takes can of her stones. Why I tell you this story is that when the stones where bought, my son did not follow my instruction and things went from bad to worse for her. I have to remind them all the time to CLEANSE any stone they bring into the house to remove anyone else’s energy on the stones. Thank you for making that the first thing on your it’s of thing you should do. Good luck everyone with your current and future stone purchase.

  19. Cal Turton

    I was in the midst of a very dark emotional time but tried to just shove through it. It involved people I was very close to. Visited a crystal healing show in matlock and chatted to one of the stall holders. Took me to a seat and saged a crystal then handed it me in a silk cloth. I felt a tremendous gushing sensation in my sacral chaka and had a weird bout of crying. She then showed me I was holding stilbite which is often found with appopholite. She assured me it was very gud at chucking ’emotional sludge’ out which marryied with the way Id been feeling. After a couple of hours I felt like a clear spring stream. I avoided stilbite for quite a while but then began to be drawn to it again.I now have quite a few pieces and really feel its my go to stone to clear dark or unhealthy emotions. Works like a charm! I also adore labradorite and wear it in jewellry,carry crystals.thumb stones and chunks all over my space but my daughter since being quite young has struggled with it saying it makes her feel emotionally heavy. Shes older and wiser now but still treats lab with great respect. Lol. Have you had any experience of stilbite Ethan? In any form?
    Love your writings and have all your books. Your advice is always honest and I feel trustworthy.
    Crystal Carma to you. Cal.

  20. Jacque Cann

    I haven’t had any negative reactions myself. However, I have a very good friend who cannot stand quartz crystal. Every time he picks up or holds a piece of regular clear quartz, he says that it feels like it is burning his skin (heat, not chemical). He had recently been to a metaphysical fair or store and was looking at crystals there and told me about it. Even a pendant that I had been wearing that day (and recently cleansed) gave him this same reaction. We tried aqua aura & smokey quartz, and both provided the same reaction – just not as severe. We tried other crystals in my collection, and he had negative reactions to most of them. However, I can’t remember which ones or his reactions off-hand. (It has been several years since we tried this.) I think that we concluded that crystal energy just isn’t meant to be in his “wheel-house”. 🙂

  21. crystal

    hi ethan,
    when i got my moldavite after cleansing it the first i picked it up to wire wrap it & had an odd sensation, not what i would call bad so much as intense ugh. later when i picked it up again to wrap it i got the same thing, so i blew off the idea of wearing it & we get along fine now. i guess it just doesn’t want to be worn or wrapped. lol

    i have a off topic question for you. in the pic of your new book advertised in the email is that dragon made of fire quartz? if so who did you buy it from if an online source. sure is pretty whatever it is

      1. crystal

        oh my lucky u! i love that stuff, been collecting it like a wild woman. lol well i think i finally got enough of it cuz i’m actually looking at other stones again. 😀

    1. Cherry

      I got a Watermelon Tourmaline pendant – one of my best friends in the crystal realm – in 1990. It was fine for 10 years; then in the year 2000 it repeatedly got free from its setting and would use its powers to break the grip of any glue my husband and I tried to re-set it with. It got to the point where I was scared to wear it out of doors in case it parted company with me! I sat down with it and asked why it was doing that. It answered that as much as it loved me, it didn’t want to be a pendant.

      I respected its wishes; it remained a loose crystal until last year when I got my Ankylosing Spondylitis diagnosis, whereupon it told me it changed its mind and wanted to be worn again because it knew it could help. I re-set it, and thus far (touch wood) it hasn’t broken free even once. That isn’t the only time it’s happened either: I’ve bought several pendants and ended up taking them apart because the crystal in question was unhappy.

  22. Jane Stanton

    Hi, great article, I was in a store and picked up a tecktite. I started to fall with a force that felt like I was jolted backwards and I went dizzy, it was very powerful. I put it back and tried a couple of times more. But had the same reaction each time. I really feel I would have fallen down having lost my balance if I had held it longer…. Also one time I made a large grid out of lots of different crystals, I didn’t know what I was doing really, just that it looked pretty. I closed the door and came back later. The energy in the room changed to an uncomfortable feeling giving me a headake instantly and my friend almost passed out and felt like she was leaving her body. It was alarming to say the least.

  23. Stephanie

    I just recently sat with two quartz and a rough chunk of selenite, intending to cleanse my aura and lift my vibrations to attempt to connect with spirit guides. Both quartzes I’ve had for years and have regularly cleansed with tingsha bells and white light. On this occasion though I had a sudden feeling of being unbalanced after finishing the visualisation, emotionally ‘wobbly’ (tearful, depressed, not like me at all) and a strong desire to remove one of the quartz far away from me (it’s on a necklace).
    The feelings lifted after an hour and I felt back to normal. I also felt I should run the quartzes under the tap and bless with white light. After reading here I’ve decided to let them both have a break from me. They are now on a selenite slab for a ‘rest.’ Not sure what happened there. Did I have a healing crisis of suppressed emotion? I felt exhausted afterwards, nothing like the calm and peace I usually feel after a meditation session with quartz, especially as these are ‘old friends’ I’ve had ages. Puzzling.

    1. Cherry

      Hi Stephanie,

      I think you’re right, and your Quartz and Selenite have healed you of something. I’d hazard a guess it was something you weren’t even aware of.

      Your sense to let the crystals rest is spot on: if the healing affected you that way, then they’ve done a lot of work and will need a vacation! If you’re worried about when they should be returned to use, don’t be: they’ve advised you when they need to rest, they’ll let you know when they’re ready to help again.

      Love and Light.

  24. Kuro

    My black onyx and mahogany obsidian both have heavy negative energy coming off them and yes I cleared them to make sure…I bought both online…I wanted to have simple protection for my health…what I received was the opposite and I dont’ understand this experience…they even clash with my other crystals, I felt my own as if it was in great pain crying out when I placed it near them…I’m in shock and dont know what to think about this or what to do. Such heavy energy is very confusing..most heavy is the protective black onyx which surprises me greatly. Why would this happen?

    1. Cherry

      Kuro, it could be that your Obsidian and Black Onyx were abused by someone they encountered in the past. That’s the only likely reason I can think of for your experiences.

      Unfortunately (if I’m right), it takes a crystal healer – not the usual kind but the kind who can heal the crystals instead – to sort this out. I’m one, but I have never heard of another (though I suspect more exist, if perhaps they’re unaware of what they can do). It’s uncommon to meet a traumatised crystal – I’ve met three in 33 years – and healing them is far from easy; it takes time, empathy and love.

  25. Amy

    My 10 year old brother is seems to react funny to rose quartz, he does not have these symptoms, but becomes hyperactive. Its happen two days in a row and exactly when he starts fiddling with it and it scares my older sister, who is new to the wicca practice, do you have any advice? I’m not sure if this is a funny reaction caused by the rose quartz, but it makes him uncomfortable as he is constantly apologizing for his actions.

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      People can react differently to different crystals. If you or someone else does not like how they feel or behave with a certain crystal they can stop using it and try other crystals. It’s always your choice.

  26. Rosemary Naylor

    I’ve recently bought a fan shaped black kyanite pendant and have been wearing it a an hr or so on some days. I decided to sleep with it on lastnt. I woke just after dawn with left sided chest pain, a strong ache and noted the pendant was touching the area of pain. I took it off and the pain gradually receded. The strong pain ebbed as soon as I took it off. I put it at a distance from my bed and went back to sleep for another hour or so. Has anyone any ideas of why this happened. I thought this stone was good for the chakras

    1. Cherry

      Rosemary, when a crystal causes physical pain it’s trying to say, “Please don’t do that to me.” Palmstones can trigger pain in the hand and wrist if you grip them too tightly; the message in this case would be, “Please don’t hold me so tightly!”

      I suggest you continue to wear it, but only in the daytime.

      Love and Light.

    1. Rosemary Naylor

      Hi Iren no I didn’t, but I have now, have cleared and cleansed all my stones and crystals, but I won’t be wearing any pendant to sleep now. Was very scary

  27. Debbie T

    Same as above. Also, I would say you had it on you for too long. I only use mine to ‘comb ‘ my aura, so holding it for a short amount of time. I don’t think I would choose to carry or wear it for longer than an hour at a time; it feels a little too intense. Might be different for you, though.

  28. Rosemary Naylor

    Hi Debbie I certainly agree now, I didn’t realise how powerful crystals can be because of their vibration. I’ve been researching more on the subject

  29. Sally Stapley

    I can’t seem to use lepidolite. It seems to make me anxious for some reason which I think is the opposite of what it’s supposed to do. (And an opal ring I used to wear all the time finally burnt me!)

    1. Cherry

      Sally, Lepidolite is supposed to be calming, but yours might have negative energy attached to it. Yoh haven’t mentioned whether or not you’ve cleansed and bonded with it, but I recommend a good cleanse at the minimum. If you cleanse the crystal and the anxiety continues, I’d suggest working with the Lepidolite for short periods of time, in case it’s trying to heal something for you; if it persists long term, then you’ll probably want to move it on to someone who reacts better to it.

      Love and Light.

  30. Pacodad

    White calcite–was very excited to find it. I didn’t know it came in that color and form. I like other colors of calcite, esp a sea foam green, blue, and orange. I kept trying to carry it with me during the day but each time I felt distanced, a bit nauseous, certainly didn’t find comfort in holding it. Only other stone I keep looking at, thinking I want to have as part of my collection is lepidolite. Just does not connect in real life with me. I benefit from amethyst though. Dravite, almost any ocean jasper, diopside, all kyanites, opal. Chrysoprase is really, really a draw. I’ve been carrying a clear quartz small tower with several phantoms….powerful. Just makes sense to me that if some connect, draw in ways that are good, not all have the same almost lock and key relationship.

  31. ML

    Hi, thanks for sharing such a good article. I am new to crystal and just started with some common small tumbled like amethyst, red jasper, green aventurine, sodalite, florite, onyx, rose, clear quarts and others. I feel good and love them when I bought these in my local shop. I did cleansed and charged them under moonlight before I start using them. All are well but I find that I could not bear with some of the crystal for long exposure like more than 4-5 hours. I normally place 2-3 crystals on my working desk in the morning and I feel the good energy – calm and focus. But after few hours I start to feel tired and a bit nausea, when I look at the crystal, I could feel the ‘tire’ energy from them. Once I keep them away and the ‘tire’ feeling’ is gone. This is specially obvious with red jasper. I cleanse them every time I’ve used . My questions are, will the crystals feel ‘tire’ if they’ve worked too long, hence they are also giving out the tire energy? is size affecting how long the crystal could work?

    1. Cherry

      @ML, no, size has no connection to power.

      It sounds to me like your crystals are picking up a lot of negative energy in your workplace and are holding onto it to stop it from reaching you, which is giving them the crystal equivalent of a dose of fatigue! I’d keep them away from your work desk and see what happens.

      Love and Light.

  32. Sandy

    I am highly sensitive to energies and highly positive myself. I recently had an amazing response to a rose quartz and amethyst (bracelets) almost immediately. I wanted to give tha black obsidian a chance the next day, but hours after wearing it I literally couldn’t keep my balance to the point where I alnost had some one pick me up to avoid driving. I didn’t cleanse it but the interesting part was that I had a very weary feeling before I put it on (necklace). I took it off the same day and took a little extra to reground that night. I still hold respect for it despite the incompatibility.

    1. Cherry

      Sandy, I don’t think that’s incompatibility. I think you and the Obsidian just need to get used to one another.

      Try wearing it for short periods at a time at first, and don’t combine it with any other grounding crystals i.e. Smoky Quartz, Jasper, Black Tourmaline.

  33. Alegria

    Yes I had a strong negative reaction today. I was wearing purple flourite on a leather string around my neck – ie close to heart and throat chakras – and experienced a lump in my throat, feeling of depression and draining energy and sudden urge to remove it. I had felt the need to remove this necklace once before but the contrast was not as pronounced as this time. After removing it I started to feel better even after only 5 mins, then progressively lighter and more energized after each while until about 30 mins later feeling as good as I did on rising in the morning before I put it on. I wore it for a few hours in the morning. I’ve had it for a while and wore it through some very dark and blocked times before stopping wearing it. I have not cleansed it since wearing it last time and never properly did so even though sometimes I wore it continuously day and night. Will read up on that now and begin a practice of cleansing from now on.

  34. Melody

    I used amethyst for the first time. Skeptically, wondering if there was any real healing powers.
    I’ve never used any stone before. I wore a 1.5″ heart against my skin, circulating it in different areas. I wore it for 2.5 days. I think it helped me feel happy at first, I was really stressed out when I got it out, and was able to have a good evening. Day 2 I cried a few times (unusual but going through a hard time so didnt think much of it. ) But woke up later at night, felling hung over, room was spinning, very thirsty. Immediately felt need to remove the stone, put it on the night stand. Felling very sick this morning. Room is rocking, dizzy, vomited, and light headed. I think it was the stone! No one else is sick. Confused. (Didn’t know about cleansing or short trials) Reluctant to continue to use or try others.

      1. Cherry

        It also sounds like food poisoning, a virus – I had something similar a couple ofonths ago but it definitely wasn’t down to my crystals, because they were the same ones I always keep close – or possibly some kind of food/additive allergy.

        @Melody, did anyone you encountered seem unwell in the previous few days? Did you eat out or get a takeaway in the previous day or so before the events you describe? Did you eat anything in that time, source notwithstanding, which you’ve never eaten before?

        It’s a good idea to eliminate these kinds of things before blaming the Amethyst.

        Love and Light.

  35. Iren

    Amethyst is a beautiful, highly beneficial and powerful crystal, surprisingly, pretty much every author of books about crystals recommends Amethyst as a bedtime crystal, and I’ve had bad experience with having a fairly big size Amethyst cluster next to my bed. It was before I’ve read Ethan’s book. I have all 3 of them! What a treat! I’d always rely on Ethan’s knowledge and recommendations working with crystals… At the day time I enjoy wonderful sensation wearing my Amethyst jewelry:)

    1. Cherry

      @Iren, Ethan is indeed one of the best. I’m constantly impressed not only with his knowledge (and I’ve been doing this longer than he has), but with his straightforward honesty and the plain and simple language he uses to explain concepts. He deserves more plaudits than he’s received, that’s for sure.

      As for Amethyst, the simple fact is that everyone has one or more crystals they simply aren’t compatible with. Amethyst is exceptionally beneficial provided you can work with it, but if you can’t, it will – inadvertantly – cause problems. Even some of those who do work well with it, often find it energetic enough to disturb their sleep or cause vivid dreams. Like Ethan says, everyone experiences these things differently.

  36. Rachel Hutchinson

    I wore a recently purchased Moonstone necklace.
    I must add that I have been mentally and emotionally abused by my now ex boyfriend and other people I have no choice but to interact with.
    I slept with the Moonstone on last night and had intense and disturbing dreaming. Dreams within dreams in which I was trapped.
    I am wondering if the Moonstone is bad for me or is releasing negativity.
    I am extremely intuitive. Might the Moonstone not be the right stone for me?

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      Sorry to hear that. Moonstone stimulates dreams and the subconscious mind, it is not something I would recommend for a peaceful sleep… You can use it occasionally if you want to have more dreams and do dream work. As for if it is right for you or healing, that is something you yourself will have to decide. You got the message I believe.

  37. Kim masden

    I recently started wearing labradorite earrings and have been feeling extremely drained. I’m not sure if it’s the labradorite or if I am absorbing emotions around me? I thought labradorite helps prevent energy leakage.

    1. Cherry

      Hi Kim,

      It does. It also does something else: it activates and/or boosts psychic abilities.

      The symptoms you describe match very well with your psychic powers opening up. I was so exhausted when mine awoke, my parents thought I got CFS! It really sounds to me as if your earrings are awakening yours.

      Have you noticed any shadows where there shouldn’t be any, sounds no-one else can hear, lights no-one else can see? Have you found yourself knowing something you couldn’t possibly know, yet you check it out and your knowledge turns out to be exactly right? These are all signs of awakening psychic power. Your perceptions are changing, and it is unquestionably draining. I recommend you look after yourself: eat a balanced diet, exercise as much as possible given your energy levels, and wait. It will pass.

      Of course, Ethan’s recommendation to cleanse the stones is excellent advice. You can’t cleanse your crystals too often, and they’ll thank you for it.

      Love and Light.

  38. Laura

    Hello, I’m still relatively new to crystals.
    About a month ago I bought a piece of aquamarine with a large, prominent rainbow inclusion in it, and I wore it for the first time all last week, and the rainbow has completely disappeared? Any thoughts?

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      People report similar things to me, though it is not a common thing. My view on this is that the crystal has actually helped you cleanse or heal something on a deep level which will help you change and grow as a person. This usually happens when we are going through big life changes.

  39. pilot ray

    Years ago … i took my parapilegic wife, in wheel chair, to the Monroe Institute in Virgina for a mind focus class (1 week Gateway Voyage class). One focus session had us go in to the field at dusk at the top of Roberts Mountain to walk around and meditate. In the center of the open field was one of the largest quartz crystals that was mined in brazil and donated to the institute. I pushed my wife around in wheelchair for 15 mins – she kept asking me to push her over to the crystal – so I finally did and she asked to life th wheelchair with her ont the base around the crystal so she could touch it. I did and she leaned forwad in the wheelchair and placed both hands on the face of the crystal and tilted her head back and began screaming at the top of her lungs and would not stop. everyone in the field were snapping pictures with their cameras. I pulled my wife off the crystal and pushed her away and asked her why she screamed – she did not lnow or remember doing it. Before we returned inside the building she asked to touch it again – we did and she began screaming again. We were the last to go inside to discuss out ‘meditation’ and the staff and about 25 students were clapping – they pointed to the pictures from many cameras. They said do we see the red dots in thepictures over ourt heads. I said yesa -bad film – they said not on a dozen cameras. They said they were orbs (spirits) flying over us. I asked why was she screaming ? were they evil spirits from people that died or doing OBE’s ?

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      That is very interesting, thanks for sharing it here. I have not heard anything quite like that before. I would say that if these were negative entities I would have expected your wife to be quite scared after and want to avoid the crystal. It is hard to know what it was, maybe she was releasing something?

  40. Iren

    I think you are right Ethan. That’s what I thought maybe she was releasing something, overwise, why would she ask to take her to the crystal second time?

    1. Cherry

      This says to me that your wife has either been suffering with some kind of negative energy attached to her, or perhaps even a bad spirit. Quartz is an amazing purifier, my go-to when I have to have strangers in my home (I’m highly territorial, probably because of that very sensitivity) and want the energy reset. These big Quartzes are of the same kind used in Atlantean healing rituals, extremely powerful. I’d love to whisper one or even have one in my flat!

      Love and Light.

  41. Lexy

    I have a selenite tower and I didn’t realize I had to cleanse it. I was feeling negative whenever I tried working with it, which is the opposite of its purpose, and once I cleansed it everything was fine

  42. Molly Brunsvold

    I had a very violent and unpleasant reaction to blue kyanite. I cant even look at it without feeling uneasy. I haven’t touched it in about 2 years and I’m not sure if I should spellfuly and physically destroy it or cleanse it and take my chances. Anyone have any advice?

    1. Cherry

      @Molly, you should never willfully destroy a crystal – they’re gifts from Mother Nature – and spells generally won’t work on them.

      You should try to cleanse it in case there is any bad energy lurking; it won’t do any harm, at the least, and could make all the difference. It could be that it’s trying to help you heal something, in which case you can really only bite the bullet and work with it, which may be unpleasant in the short term but will be hugely beneficial in the medium to long term; it could be that it and you just aren’t compatible; or it could be that this particular stone has a “destined human” – a specific and special person whom it’s trying to reach – the problems you’re having with it are its way of preventing you from bonding with it, and you’re a kind of living stepping stone for it to reach its correct place in the scheme of things. It certainly doesn’t mean you any harm, whatever the case. Crystals just don’t do that stuff, so please, don’t punish it.

      Love and Light.

  43. Kimberly Baker

    I make jewelry and I made an obsidian necklace for myself. After having it on for a few minutes, I got a lump in my throat (similar to when you’re about to cry). A pressure at the base of my throat. I took it off and the sensation eventually went away. I cleansed the necklace and tried the next day but got the same response. That was a month ago. Today I made a necklace to sell on my site using obsidian and while making the necklace, began to have the same lump in my throat. I’ve never had this reaction to obsidian before as far as carrying a stone. What could this be?

    1. Cherry

      @Kimberley Baker, Obsidian is a very intense healer. It works by bringing unresolved trauma to the surface of your consciousness and helping you to confront and deal with it. The physiological response to the process is often very much like grieving, and it sounds to me as if you have something like that going on. It may not even be from this lifetime, and past life trauma can be very deeply buried, so deeply that you’re not even aware of it. If this happens again, I recommend you allow the stone to help you, and trust in its power to comfort you as you process whatever it’s trying to help you get rid of — that’s what Obsidian does best, apart from protection. Once you’ve eradicated whatever it is, your longer term relationship with the stone should be harmonious and helpful.

      Love and Light.

  44. Tiffany

    Black obsidian makes me feel terrified and uneasy. I can’t hold it or even go near it. It is too intense and seems to amplify my PTSD tenfold. I prefer the soft gentle energy from rose quartz.

    Black tourmaline also makes me feel uneasy but in a different way. It gives me an intense feeling of grief/sorrow.

    Opalite is beautiful but every time I try to hold it the stone causes a burning vibration with sharp aches in my hand.

  45. Mozella Bell

    I recently purchased a moldevite heart shaped pendant surrounded by garnets. I love crystals. I have a rose quartz, a monestone, and other stones. No problems using them or just enjoying the meditation with them. I got this moldevite pendant. Put it on, I felt a sensation in my arm. Didn’t think anything of it. Sometimes i have arm problems where my arm would go out from anywhere from a sec to around a min and then be alright. Hadn’t happened in years. However, it happened with the moldevite. I wore the moldevite day and night for about a week and my arm pain progressively got worse. Like my arm was literally breaking in half. I don’t have a single broken bone but this pain was RAW. I went to the emergency room cause I couldn’t take the pain anymore. While waiting on the doctor (sat for an hour and he never came). My mind said take off the moldevite. I did and almost immediately the pain went away. I left, came home, and went to work. The next day my arm felt amazing. I feel great. However, from all the reading I’ve done I thought it was just supposed to be a slight burning or spacyness or something. IDK what i did but this was toxic to me….

    1. Cherry

      Hi Mozella Bell,

      I don’t think that’s toxicity. I think the Moldavite helped you.

      Our arms are connected to our heart chakra (think of a loving hug), and Moldavite, of course, is green, the colour of the physical heart (pink stones like Rose Quartz are connected to the ’emotional heart’, the seat of our feelings, whereas green ones are connected to the physical organ).

      You mention your arm ‘going out’: if by this you mean, it goes numb or part numb, part painful, this can mean one of two things: it is possible you have a heart issue, but *far* more likely it’s a trapped nerve. You’ll know if that’s the case: trapped nerves deliver a unique type of pain which, once felt, is never forgotten. It’s sharp. Vicious. Has teeth. In my more painful moments I’ve referred to it as “stabby-jabby”. I can only speak for myself, naturally, but I tend to find it occupies a lot of my attention when it hits.

      It sounds as if your Moldavite has released that nerve and left you pain-free. Trust me on this – I speak from bitter experience – it’s a lot nicer than neuropathic painkillers!

      If you feel you don’t want to keep your Moldavite, then you probably won’t have any problems selling it; it is now pretty rare, particularly in gem quality. Personally, I would keep that pendant if I was lucky enough to have it, but if you really feel it’s harmed you in some way, then moving it on may be in your highest good.

      Love and Light.

  46. Julie Ann Seminara

    Everytime I touch obsidian I feel like it’s sucking me in, draining me. It burns where ever i touch it and I just feel crummy. I know I have been exposed to a lot of of bad things and wonder if its helping me but dang I hate those rocks!!!

    1. Cherry

      Hi Julie Ann,

      Please don’t hate Obsidian. You’re most likely right; it’s trying to help you process any traumatic experiences and heal. This is one of Obsidian’s greatest gifts, and it’s the more potent if you’re bereaved.

      Obsidian reveals deep truths about its user; but it also offers comfort and reassurance, helping you to accept and deal with what it reveals. It sounds as if it’s exactly what you need. Just one tip: pairing it with Rose Quartz will tend to take the edge off its harsher effects.

      Love and Light.

  47. Helen

    I have a certain problem with smoke obsidian, I can’t put it on my forehead without getting a very strong tinnitus within 5 minutes.
    I tried it 3-4 times in intervals of a few days with the same result. the first time I thought it would go away right away, it didn’t go away after a few minutes and then I was too annoyed and put the crystal down. Carrying and holding in my hand is not a problem.

    Is freezing also one of the negative ones?
    I have some crystals that feel like when very cold air moves around them and I can’t hold them in my hand for long because it gets so cold. Mainly these are my black tourmaline and an ice blue aragonite. A few days ago I meditated with my Dumortierite and then I got very cold because the surrounding energy was very cold, otherwise I can hold it quite well in my hand and it doesn’t feel cold either.

    1. Cherry

      Hi Helen,

      First of all, Obsidian is a base chakra stone, and I have never read or heard of any recommendation to apply it to the forehead, probably because that’s the site of the third eye chakra and there’s likely to be a clash of energies, especially since you note that having it in your hand isn’t a problem. The tinnitus is probably the Obsidian’s warning that you’re using it incorrectly and could cause yourself harm. I’ve put Obsidian beside my head before; I don’t do it any more, because I always get a thumping headache! You might want to try lying down and resting the Obsidian at your pubic bone instead.

      The freezing air is harder to explain. Normally a freezing cold crystal is deactivated and/or out of energy: this is as near to an emergency health situation as a crystal can come, and needs immediate attention. Feeling cold after a meditation is also relatively normal, as the deeper you go into meditation, the more of your personal energy it drains; the answer is to eat or have a hot drink immediately afterwards, which will both ground and replenish you.

      However the air around a crystal being freezing cold is something else altogether. I wonder, did you protect yourself adequately before you began meditating? Suddenly freezing air is usually associated with a spirit manifesting. Such manifestations need energy; if there are no crystals around the spirit will drain energy (i.e. heat) from the air around it; but crystals are a much more potent source. I think your meditation has attracted a spirit, and the cold is its attempt to gather energy.

      This may not be a bad thing, though. It depends on the nature of the spirit. Setting aside the doubtless alarming sensation of cold, did you feel unduly disturbed when you ended meditation? If so, you may have attracted something undesirable; but if not, your meditation may have called to one of your spirit guardians, in which case you’re safe. You just might want to ask them to stop draining your crystals.

      Love and Light.

  48. Dottie

    I have a favorite Rose Quartz that I often feel drawn to wear. I recently had that feeling again and wore it only for it to feel really heavy. This has not happened before. I am still feeling drawn to it but I am concerned about the heaviness, as it caused pain.

    1. Cherry

      @Dottie, feelings of heaviness and pain when wearing a crystal, mean it’s picked up some negative energy from somewhere which is literally weighing it down. You will need to cleanse your Rose Quartz before you wear it again, otherwise that bad energy will only propagate to you.

      Love and Light.

  49. Robyn

    I have a black tourmaline necklace that has really worked well so I decided to get a lepidolite necklace to help with my anxiety, ADHD and stress issues. I left it out under the full moon to cleanse it and I started wearing it with the tourmaline necklace but my neck was feeling heavy and I started feeling nauseous. I took off the lepidolite and started feeling better. I put back on the lepidolite today and again feeling nauseous among several other symptoms, just took off the lepidolite and immediately felt better. I am really sad it doesn’t seem to be working for me, Im worried I just have to much stress right now and the lepidolite can’t handle it.

    1. Cherry

      Robyn, Lepidolite is a logical choice in your medical situation, but is probably too strong for you. I just got my first piece on March 26th – I found it instead of buying it, so it’s already firmly bonded – and I can verify what Ethan says: it’s powerful stuff!

      You may want to look into Rose Quartz and Lithium Quartz before you try out Lepidolite again. Lithium Quartz bears the same lithium as Lepidolite, but will be somewhat less overwhelming; and there isn’t much Rose Quartz can’t help with.

      Love and Light.

  50. Rachel

    Moonstone does not work with me. I had terrible nightmares wearing it. I finally returned it.

    I either have powerful positive reaction to a stone or nothing at all. I am also strangely repelled by rose quartz.
    I love, peridot and many others.
    I must cleanse my gems. Thank you for suggestions on cleansing.

  51. Logan

    I think that blue kyanite is for things to come is large waves (think of the white mixed in the blue and how it looks like the middle of the ocean where there are big waves) So it might be because it is bringing in emotional energy waves from how you felt in the past to now.

  52. Sara

    I cleanse my crystals daily, and have desert selenite near my crystals to cleanse them. Yet, I’ve noticed lately amethyst and black tourmaline have started to be painful and uncomfortable. I’m not sure if it’s because I just got home from spending time with stressful family members whom I’ve had disfunction and past traumas with. This is pretty new for me. I also sage my crystals as well. They were fine, quite soothing….I don’t understand what changed.

    1. Cherry

      I don’t think your Desert Selenite is working properly; it may need cleansing itself (think of trying to get clean in a dirty bathroom).

      I think you’re probably right about the connection between your Amethyst and Black Tourmaline being painful, and your stressful relatives. I think your Amethyst and Black Tourmaline have taken the negative energy you picked up from said relatives, onto themselves to help you, and it’s possible your Selenite needs cleansing for this reason too; it’s clear that neither they, nor you, are benefitting from your spending any time with those relatives. It may sound harsh, but I say it from experience, having had the misfortune to have grown up with almost a full set of toxic family members (only my father wasn’t) – I feel strongly that you need to stay away from them, for your own sake and your crystals’.

  53. Misty

    Ive been wearing a hematite and tigers eye bracelet for a while now and yesterday i felt a little off but thought no big deal just allergies but today i had to actually take it off because it was making me feel physically ill and now that ive taken it off i feel better than i did and i know itll take a while for me to completely feel back to normal but it was crazy how it just came out of no where and had me feeling so bad all of a sudden.

  54. Renee Fedrick

    I was compelled to buy an ametrine pendant a few days ago – it was screaming at me while none of the other ametrine pieces even hummed but the moment I touched it I thought of my grandmother. I put it around my neck so as to not loose it and got a splitting headache near my left eye – took it off and out it in my purse and ten minutes later the pain was gone. I have worn ametrine chips before but never a larger piece – I suspect this one just wanted me as transport to where it wanted to go as my grandmother immediately went oh yes and hung it on her cupboard door handle.

    1. Cherry

      @Renee, yes, that happens sometimes. Crystals are always aware of how their using us as living stepping stones to reach their specific, destined human (I call my crystals, “my crystals”; they call me “my human”: turnabout is fair play!), but sometimes they have no other option. In that case they’ll take pains to prevent a bond forming between themselves and their ‘stepping stone’, which can unfortunately cause that person some suffering. The Ametrine was obviously meant for your grandmother, it didn’t want to hurt you by forming a bond and then moving on, so it caused something repellent to happen. I think your grandmother needed some protection from something, because that is one of Ametrine’s powers.

      Love and Light.

  55. Valerie

    I almost fainted using a black obsidian, this was about 4 years ago and I was new to the crystal community and decided to work with obsidian for a cleansing and it made me feel as if I was about to pass out. Luckily nothing happened and it broke two days after.

  56. Isabel

    I have been wearing K2 and (I do not think) it is supposed to change color.. however, after 2 days of wearing, it has turned almost entirely dark blue/black. The blue spots are still somewhat visible, but it is mostly very dark now. Have you heard of this? Is this a bad reaction? What does this mean?

  57. Yogita

    I wore an amythest pendant as its was told highly beneficial for remaining stable and great for mood swings. But as I wore it I started feeling dizzy and at times I felt I couldn’t even stand up on my feet. My head became so heavy. What should I wear in this regard.?

  58. Sudha

    I’m new to crystals & every time I buy rough raw stones, I get this HUGE nausea and end up getting sick. Last time I bough 5 pieces of raw black tourmaline, I ended up getting extremely sick for a day. I kept the stones away in sunlight and then I got used to them. Yesterday, i received my rough rose quartz pendant and cleansed it using the white light visualization meditation and left it overnight in a cup of sea salt. Again after wearing it today for 30 mins, I ended up getting extreme nausea and dizziness. I kept the pendant in sunlight away. I do not really know what could possibly happening. Could you please let me know? Thanks.

  59. Jeremy

    I cannot even begin to describe the reactions I have to labradorite. Let me just say; I can feel someone wearing it from across a room! I’m an empath & have not an aversion but almost a fear out of respect feeling from it. The best way to describe it is it almost feels as though every piece I come into contact with. Pulls all the negative from me, & reflects it back to me. I’m always drawn to touch it, & immediately feel as though I’m incredibly heavy & my head is a balloon. I’ve always had this experience & I cant possibly imagine what kind of energy it could be working in me. Any thoughts?

    1. Cherry

      Two possibilities spring to mind here:

      1) Labradorite is trying to help you process something, and it’s altering your state of awareness in order to do it.

      2) There is some kind of basic incompatibility at work.

      I recommend you take some time to work – *slowly and carefully* – with this crystal and see what it has to offer you.

      Love and Light.

  60. Andrea Parsons

    I have been using crystals for some time, my go to crystals are amethyst and flourite.
    I bought myself Zebra Jasper for the healing properties, but have had to reduce the amount of time I wear it as I came over dizzy with a headache and not feeling okay. Is this normal?

    1. Cherry

      Hi Andrea,

      It sounds to me like your Jasper is leaving you too grounded. That’s one of Jasper’s many properties, and something it also tends to do to me quite a lot. It isn’t necessarily the wrong stone for you, but I invite you to to consider: when you wear your Jasper, are you wearing, or do you have close to you, any other grounding crystals like Smoky Quartz, Black or Brown Tourmaline etc? Piling on too many black or brown stones can leave you discombobulated, tired, headachy and feeling, spiritually speaking, like an overloaded aeroplane.

      If this is the case, then I recommend you choose just one grounding crystal at a time to wear/keep near you; this should stop the over-grounding. I default to my Black Tourmaline, but if it needs charging, my Ocean Jasper is a pretty good substitute. I learned the hard way not to wear them both at the same time!

      If not, then I’d need some more details in order to work out the cause, but nothing personal. Please feel free to give me a shout!

      Love and Light.

  61. lena

    My friend has recently, this year, gotten into crystals. Whenever I sleepover or just really am in her room i get very bad headaches, they almost always go away when we leave her room. Before, when i’d sleepover i had no symptoms so i’m very sure it’s because she has them now (in her room). Does this mean they don’t like me?

    1. Cherry

      @lena, no, I very much doubt that’s the answer; not unless you’re a user of dark magic, and if you were I very much doubt you’d have come here to seek answers!

      You may have a blockage in your third eye and/or crown chakras which the crystals are trying to help clear. Headaches are a primary symptom of one or both of these chakras being blocked, or perhaps having negative energy stuck in them.

      I don’t suppose your friend’s crystals include Amethyst, Clear Quartz or Fluorite? Those would be the “usual suspects”, so to speak; and crystals will reach out to anyone whom they sense needs help — they needn’t be part of that person’s collection.

      I’d recommend you look into this a little further, perhaps with a qualified healer (or with your friend if she is one) and see if there’s something that can be done to unblock your chakra(s). If you can’t access a qualified healer (lockdowns, sheez) then you can easily obtain a Clear Quartz, perhaps a tumblestone, which I think would be the best crystal to help you, and meditate with it.

      Love and Light.

  62. Cynthia Stepien

    Thank you so much for this insightful article. I’m desperately looking for guidance after a horrific week with my moldavite/amethyst necklace.
    I had one little piece of moldavite and I had great things happen to me. Then i got my necklace, was told to leave it in the sun to charge it, and after I wore it, I had a horrible incident: my child disappeared, which never happened before. Luckily, after some time we found her thank God. I immediately thought of the necklace. I decided to give it one more change, and immediately after wearing it on a short walk, I returned home to find my basement flooded.

    I don’t know if I should bury this necklace now as far away as possible or what. I read to run it under running water and leave it in the moonlight, so I just did that, but I’m still not sure if I should throw it away at this point.

    Any recommendations, welcomed.

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      Some things to think about. It might be the crystal, but it might not as these events may have happened anyway. I don’t personally charge crystals and avoid sunlight cleansing as it does fade most coloured crystals over time. I would use other cleansing methods. Cleansing should remove things but have you tried consecrating it? I recommend consecrating new crystals. Please see the Resources page for guides to cleansing methods and consecration.

  63. Liz Ramirez

    Recently purchased moldavite. When I used it I felt sadness and began to cry . I tried again another day and placed it on my third eye chakra. The following day I had the worst migraine of my life. It lasted 2 days and I also became very nauseous. I havent used it since.

    1. Cherry

      Hi Liz,

      This could be one of a few things.

      1) There’s some buried, unexpressed upset the Moldavite is trying to heal; if so, it will get you to release that upset in the healthiest way possible. Please keep in mind here that said upset may be from very early in your life, or even a past life trauma, so you may not be consciously aware of it.

      2) The Moldavite has some bad (negative) energy attached to it. That would certainly explain the migraine, and may also explain the feeling of sadness. Did you cleanse it when you first got it? If not, that’s a very common mistake, but one which can have nasty consequences and can even lead to someone discarding a crystal they really need and are meant to work with.

      3) Moldavite simply isn’t compatible with your personal energies. I know this feeling: Turquoise is touted by most authors in the field as a premier healing stone which everyone should have, but every time I wear or carry it, I get very bad luck. The last time I did, the car I was in damn nearly went off a 100ft cliff! Needless to say, I stopped wearing, carrying or using it after that near miss
      Ironically, turquoise is one of my very favourite colours.

      You’re probably wondering what you can do about this. Well, for whatever it’s worth to you, this is my advice, and I’ve worked with crystals for over 33 years:

      Firstly, give that Moldavite a good old cleanse. I heartily recommend Ethan’s blog entries on this subject; they’re in total agreement with my own experience, they’re clear, they’re concise, and they’re in plain English. One he doesn’t mention, though – no idea why – is the Amethyst cluster and Sun or Moon energy cleanse. Simply place your Moldavite on an Amethyst cluster- in this instance exposed to the Moon, because Moldavite seems to respond better to Lunar energy than Solar – on the night of the full Moon from Moonrise to Moonset. (Doesn’t matter if the skies are cloudy, or if it clouds up during the night; the Moon’s energy will still be there.) That should do it, but you might want to be doubly certain and use another method, like sage smudging or immersing in brown rice, beforehand. After all this, I advise you meditate with it, or just spend some quiet time getting to know it, preferably with no other crystals on your person. This will create a bond between you and your crystal, which will cause a change (assuming you didn’t do this already), connecting the two of you much more deeply and letting your Moldavite adapt much better to your energies.

      Secondly, start out slowly, only working with your Moldavite for a few minutes each day. Moldavite is a very powerful crystal, and it can take a little time for your energies to adapt and become used to its. I had to do the same thing with my Petalite pendant. When you can work with it for, say, five minutes without anything bad happening, try stepping it up to seven minutes, then ten, then twelve, then fifteen and so on. The actual numbers are up to you, but it’sa bit like getting used to a new medication: take it slowly, and the initial side effects should wear off after a little while.

      If all of this fails, then that’s a sign that either you have the wrong piece of Moldavite, or there’s an irreversible incompatibility between you and this crystal species. If it’s the wrong piece, then another will give you better results; it may even be that your current piece is using you as a form of stepping stone to reach its destined human companion, and the symptoms you’re experiencing are its way of preventing a bond from forming between you. Crystals never mean to harm us, but can do some inadvertantly if they have to use us this way because they are destined to work with one person, and one person alone. If you try another Moldavite and still have the same problem, then I advise you to leave the species well alone, because it cannot benefit you.

  64. Jane

    Hello, I recently bought moldivite.. I cleansed it and decided to wear it on a necklace along with chevron Amethyst. I was having a lot of anxiety and have started wearing it for short spans of time. I now feel as though my necklace weighs like 10 lbs and somthing heavy is on my chest . I took it off but I still have this feeling ..

    1. Cherry

      @Jane, the crystals need to be cleansed. The heaviness amd anxiety you describe are classic symptoms of negative energy. Unfortunately, if you’re still feeling it long after you removed the necklace, it has transferred to you too, and you’ll need to cleanse it from yourself as well as the stones.

      You’ll need to start by cleansing this bad energy from yourself, otherwise it will hop from you, right back to the stones, and the cycle will start all over again. No-one wants that.

      Ethan has several excellent blog entries on the different ways to cleanse crystals, clearly laid out and in simple, straightforward English. However cleansing the bad energy from your chakras isn’t quite so straightforward, and may require a trip to a professional practitioner. If that isn’t an option ( I know it isn’t for me), then there are alternatives.

      First of all, pinpoint the location of the heavy feeling. Is it in your breastbone, heart, lungs, throat, brain, at the top of your head? Its location will tell you which chakra has been affected. Heart/lungs/chest = heart chakra; breastbone (basically where a pendant on an 18″ chain would sit) = higher heart chakra, a chakra commonly affected by negative energy from a necklace; throat = throat chakra (obviously); brain = third eye; top of your head, like you’re wearing a lead hat = crown chakra. From your report of feeling anxious, if I had to take a guess as to which of your chakras is affected, I’d say, heart chakra.

      Next, identify a crystal which can help cleanse that specific chakra. For the heart, Rose Quartz is good, as are Pink or Green Tourmaline, whichever feels better to you, and Pink Topaz. For the higher heart, Paraiba Tourmaline or Paraiba Apatite (both pretty rare), or Aquamarine (much more obtainable, and doesn’t have to be gem grade). For the throat, Lapis Lazuli, Kyanite, Blue Tourmaline (I swear by this crystal), Blue Topaz or Blue Lace Agate. For the third eye, Amethyst is perfect, but if you can’t work with that, then try Labradorite which is also superbly protective. For the crown, Clear Quartz (or Milky Quartz if Clear Quartz seems too strong), Danburite, Apophyllite or Petalite. Hot tip 1: Clear Quartz is the best crystal to choose if you can’t make your mind up or can’t get hold of another, more chakra-specific crystal: it’s the Master Healer, with the widest range of applications and powers in the crystal kingdom, and if a professional Healer can’t figure out which chakra-specific crystal to use for a problem, they’ll default to Clear Quartz.

      The best thing you can do, once you’ve identified which chakra is affected and which crystal you feel is best for the problem (if you’re drawn to one I haven’t suggested, trust in that guidance and use it instead), is to cleanse and wear it; or, if that isn’t possible, carry it with you in your purse or pocket, preferably in a soft pouch so it won’t get damaged by keys etc. Hot tip 2: if at all possible, the pouch should be made of natural material, like cotton or suede. I have a “safety pouch”, a small Native American neck pouch made from suede, leather, wool and wood, which I use to keep my most special small crystals with me when going out; these stones never leave my side, but there are too many to wear, and some are too small to mount anyway. Whatever you do, please keep them away from plastic: they really don’t like it. Keep your chosen crystal inside your personal energy field – your aura – until the heavy, anxious feelings go away for good — you may wish to meditate with it, which I know can help; once those bad feelings are gone, thank the stone for its help (manners work at least as well with crystals as they do with people) and rest it in indirect sunlight for at least two weeks.

      Once this is done, you can then look to cleanse your necklace. With a little luck, once that’s cleansed too, you should be able to enjoy a proper, close relationship with it.

      But please do be aware that, contrary to what some authors (but not Ethan) would have you believe, everyone has crystals that they just can’t work with; also, some crystals should never be paired together. If you cleanse that bad energy from yourself and your necklace, but the feelings persist, then I’m sorry to have to say that you’ll probably have to move your necklace on to somebody upon whom it doesn’t have these effects.

      Love and Light.

  65. sodaman

    I bought a star sapphire it chose me because it told me it was “invincible”

    true, its mohs hardness is nine so, yea, it works well for me.

    1. Cherry

      @sodaman, I’d love to have a Star Sapphire! The only asterism crystal I have is a Black Star Diopside; I’m very fond of stars, and Sapphires.

      It’s very interesting that it told you that directly. Bear in mind here that a Diamond can harm a Sapphire (Mohs’ 10 is something like four times harder than Mohs’ 9); but I think your Star Sapphire meant spiritual invincibility, as opposed to physical. Sapphire, for those like you and I who find it ‘compatible’, is an enormously protective and highly spiritual gemstone with connections to the higher realms and vast potential to channel energy and help its user.

      The other thing that’s interesting is the fact that you actually received a direct communication from the gem in the first place. Not that many people can do this. There’s a term for it: “crystal whisperer”.

      There seem to be two sub-types of crystal whisperer: those who can communicate with all or almost all crystals, and those who can only do so with one species or even one individual stone. Have you ever received direct communication from another kind of crystal, i.e. Quartz, Beryl, Feldspar (Moonstone, Labradorite, Sunstone etc), Fluorite, Diamond,
      Selenite, Celestite? If so, you’re what I call a “wide receptor” whisperer, able to talk with many kinds. I’m a wide receptor whisperer; I can talk to all the crystals above and then some (Chrysoberyl, Topaz, Tourmaline, Lepidolite, Agate, Jade, Kyanite, Rhodochrosite, Larimar, Opalite, Lapis Lazuli… the list goes on and on!) If not, then you’re what I call a “focused receptor” whisperer. This version seems a little more commonplace than the wide receptor gift, but is in no way less valuable. My husband is a focused receptor whisperer; he can only whisper his Rose Quartz pendant and my Red Jade. His connection with his Rose Quartz is strong (I gave it to him for his 21st birthday), and he can repeat its communication verbatim most of the time, whereas his ability to communicate with my Red Jade is more tenuous; he’s unable to pick up actual words. That’s because it’s a ‘close personal’ of mine.

      Do you allow other people to touch your Sapphire? I have one very powerful Clear Quartz which is fully dedicated, and even my husband is forbidden to touch it. Not only that; it also zaps anyone besides me who touches it!

  66. Erica

    I just purchased a huge amethyst cluster that is so beautiful. I have had lucid dreams that seem so real I have to think if it actually was or not. I also feel adrenaline sensation that worries me. I spent $265 on it and I need to get rid of it. It’s in the garage right now cause I can’t be near it. Damn I may need to throw it away.

  67. Cherry

    But give it time first. I sometimes get similar adrenaline surge type sensations from Amethyst; it’s the crystal telling me that action needs to be taken on something. Usually it’s something that needs rectifying *before* it becomes a big problem. One of mine which resides on my bedside table (I never have sleep difficulties with Amethyst) woke me this morning with something similar: within one minute, I got a nasty stabbing pain in my left foot which warned me that my big toenail on that side was ingrowing again (it’s hereditary). The crystal also spurred me to go and grab the nail clippers, even though it was only 4:50am. Sometimes crystals spur us to action when they become aware of a problem or threat, which is usually before we do; your lucid dreams may be a facet of this phenomenon, or they may be a psychic reaction to the cluster.

    Did you cleanse the cluster when you got it? Amethyst is difficult to ‘pollute’ with negative energy, but not impossible. It may be that there’s bad energy attached to it, and that’s what’s giving you these dreams, particularly if they’re alarming in nature.

    I recommend cleansing – sage smudging or something similar – and giving it a chance. If only from a purely material perspective, you surely don’t want to simply throw a beautiful and expensive crystal cluster in the trash! It would be better to give it away than throw it away.

    Love and Light.

    1. Erica

      Yes I did cleanse her with sage and told her to be gentle on me because I love her beauty.
      It helped a little. I noticed now that she is in the garage I feel the release of the tension and adrenaline I felt. I feel better.
      Guess what tho! My 10 year old daughter got her first period today and I feel like its the amethyst fault. This crystal is over stimulating everything. The trash runs tomorrow and I’m seriously thinking to chop my $265 up as a loss and send her back to the earth. I will think of something before I make my decision but for now amethyst has to stay the garage.

      1. J

        …why do you keep reverting to the trash option? Why do you have (& choose to share / perform) such destructive energy for this crystal? I mean, seriously, multiple people have told you very gently, patiently, clearly, & generously how to constructively approach the issue, giving you myriad better & more constructive options besides *throwing it in the trash*, …& not only do you ignore them (as in you don’t really engage w/any of that, at least not in a public/visible way), but you repeatedly have taken the deliberate series of actions required to type out just plain old ire & actually kinda threats towards this object, both publicly & kinda towards the people trying to help you. Like…you’re responding to their gentle, helpful energy kinda the same way it seems you’re responding to what is essentially a large, polished, helpy mineral deposit.

        This is a rhetorical question but uhhh: why? Like…it’s *a lot*.

  68. DP

    I have gotten a high quality piece of Sugilite online. It’s about 12 grams and part gel, a bright purple color. Every time I pick it up, I immediately feel extremely lightheaded and nauseous. Sometimes the nausea even lasts for up to half an hour even after I put the stone down. I have tried cleansing it extensively, but that doesn’t seem to be it.

    Some years ago, I had gotten a necklace made of poppy jasper. Every time I picked it up, I would literally burst into tears — like sobbing. After I resolved some root chakra (survival-related) issues, this stopped happening.

    Currently, I have a chrysoprase necklace that makes me feel very uncomfortable. Every time I put it on, I feel a stripped raw feeling around my heart chakra and throughout the chest area. It’s a high quality chrysoprase bead strand. Maybe it’s too strong for me at this point because I don’t have this reaction to a lighter-weight variegated chrysoprase necklace I have.

    1. Sam

      Hi DP, the Chrysoprase necklace is assisting you to work on your heart chakra, just like the Poppy Jasper did with you and your base chakra. I am a firm believer that all crystals come into our lives for a reason, if you are finding the Chrysoprase a bit overwhelming, then set it aside for a while and come back to it later when you feel more prepared to work with it and your heart chakra. But be mindful that crystals can also use us as stepping stones to get to the right individual, I have often bought crystals for myself, only to find that they need to passed to a friend or relative, who may also end up passing it on to someone else too. Blessings to you, Namaste.

      1. Cherry

        Sam is absolutely right. I’ve had crystals come into my life a decade or more before their real purpose becomes apparent; I’ve also had crystals which have used me as a stepping stone to reach the person they were truly meant for.

        There is also the point that the richer the shade of a crystal, the more potent its power tends to be (Amethyst being a classic example). If your Chrysoprase is a very rich colour, it might be the reason why it’s overwhelming you.

        As Sam says, give it time; and meanwhile, perhaps you might consider whether anything that’s happened in your life might have caused an emotional wound, hurt your heart chakra. If you can’t think of anything, then do please bear in mind that traumas can be carried over from previous incarnations, and though you may not remember them, they can still trouble you. Either way, the Chrysoprase is there to help you (as Sam says, the crystals we really need tend to find their way to us — I got a beautiful raw Lepidolite back in late Feb which I actually found instead of buying it, and I had no idea I needed a Lepidolite): it will probably cause some pain to resolve whatever is troubling you, but it’s a little like surgery: some pain at first, but then everything should get much better.

        Love and Light.

  69. Shay

    Last week, my brother suggested that I bought some malachite jewelry. I had red jasper and black tourmaline for a few months and felt like the bracelets were no longer serving me so I asked my brother who knows way more than I do around crystals. He suggested a combo of malachite and aquamarine because I like having two bracelets in the same time.

    The aquamarine felt nice and very soothing. But the malachite almost felt like a curse…

    When I tore open the enveloppe containing the green beads, it felt like I burnt my fingers on something. I thought it could be a staple somewhere and didn’t pay attention but when I took the malachite in my hand ? Within seconds I felt drained of my energy and sat on a chair. I felt dizzy. Empty. Scared. I let go of the malachite and it took minutes before I felt kind of better.

    I then put the bracelet on my nightstand and thought I’d cleanse it after my Spanish course. But when I came back in my room at the end of that course, not a hour later, the bedroom was suffocating. Like there was no air left at all.

    I thought it was enough and immediately wanted to cleanse the malachite, to get rid of the bad energy attached to it. I put on a leather glove (the only one I have) and took the bracelet to the bathroom but I passed out before I could turn the water on. My mom found me. When I came back to my senses, I was in bed and my doctor was there. He told me there is no reason for me to pass out. Apparently. I told him I was convinced it was because of the malachite and he shrugged it off. « No stone is this powerful », he said.

    But then I called my brother. I told him what happened. He told me that he does have reactions to some crystals but feels dizzy, and never had this feeling of being drained out of his energy. It never was so intense for him. I told him that this stone was a curse to me, that it was feeding off of me and he felt shocked by my words. « It’s just a stone. It might not be for you, is all ».

    Did someone ever feel this bad with a crystal ?

  70. Cherry

    Hi Shay,

    It’s not easy to know exactly what’s going on with your Malachite without touching it, but Malachite is a tricky stone to work with. If it were a human I’d call it picky; there are very few other crystals you can safely pair it with, and it’s choosy about whom it works with, too. It’s an Earth affiliated crystal, and extremely powerful.

    Being an Earth stone, Malachite is an excellent grounder, and it sounds like that might perhaps be what it did to you… too much. I wonder, were you wearing your Tourmaline or Jasper, or did you have them close by, when you were handling the Malachite? If so, you were probably drastically over-grounded. If not, then I advise you to gift the Malachite to someone who’s attracted to it and exclude that stone from your collection (think of it as being like a medicine you don’t react well to; for example, if Ibuprofen made you feel sick you wouldn’t buy it again), because if it was the sole crystal in your energy field at the time, then it was almost certainly making it known that it doesn’t want to work with you. I’m as bad with Turquoise, though the upshot is different: any time I wear or carry this supposedly premier, universal healing stone, I experience terrible and sometimes life-threatening bad luck.

    I have heard of people losing consciousness briefly when handling especially powerful crystals, but it’s not common, and it’s more usual for this to happen because of an overload of power. I’ve been made dizzy by crystals a time or two myself – Petalite being the one that springs to mind right away – but in nearly 34 years, none have made me actually pass out. I think I’ve been quite lucky on that score!

    Your Malachite may also be carrying some negative programming (this goes back to what I was saying about the source); if that’s the case, then I would still move it on, because given the strength of your reaction it could be dangerous; and that kind of thing takes a lot of cleansing.

    Love and Light.

    P.S. Tourmaline and Aquamarine are two of my very favourite crystals!

  71. Cherry

    Whoops, sorry Shay, my bad: I meant to ask if you’d bought the Malachite from a source you trusted, or somewhere new. This isn’t necessarily the answer, of course, but it can happen.

    Love and Light.

  72. jay

    tigars eye is the best for myself aquamarine is whats best for my march spring time season and inhanced with tigars eye and bloodstone jasper and red jasper grounding with clear quartz agates for strangthening the aspects of all also petrifide agatized jasperized wood in huge hand held palms the raw best looking raw and down to the little palms of agatized wood

  73. j

    and lucky for myself i live in a valley of the west coast where all these except aqua marine and tigars eye and i find them all around the agate dessert and i have three tigars eye peices 2 from serching the creak and one road sidewalk path in santa cruz ca on the ground and the other tigars eye was from my gma rock collection and is the only raw tigars eye i have burt no bad feelings from quartz or agates or crystals n jem stones

  74. Nova

    Hey, I’m a little new to the whole crystal healing and also still learning my crystals. Long story short I recently bought a new set of crystals offline and also at shop I found near me. I Cleanse them with sage and also cleansed my house with sage. I had a strange dream the next couple nights after. I didn’t think anything of it until a couple more nights after I decided to charge my crystals in the moon. I fell asleep with them in the window, I woke up the next morning to a bunch of flies surrounding the same window I had placed them in. I tried to kill majority but couldn’t so I left windows open to just fly out. When I returned a few hrs later there were dead flies in the same window I had placed/ removed my crystals and surrounding it. Should I be worried? Or am I overthinking it?

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      I have never heard anything like this before so it’s hard to say why it happened. You could look at the flies as a sign. Flies can mean having an overactive mind, overthinking, worrying about things too much.

  75. Kirsty

    I purchased a green jade crystal . Cleansed it by washing it and leaving it charge under cold running water. I put it under my pillow for bed. And put my headphones in to listen to guided meditation to fall asleep. I had the worst nightmare. My partner woke me , as I was laying there screaming but couldn’t move. I felt half awake and half asleep. Like I was aware I was having a night mare but still asleep and couldn’t wake myself . I was glad he woke me to break the dream. I felt so anxious and couldn’t get back to sleep. Where have I gone wrong ? I slept with the jade crystal in the hope to manifest fixing my money troubles . I am now scared of the crystal .
    I have washed it under running water again. Should I dispose of it ?

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      I can understand why this would put you off. I have not heard anyone report the same thing with Jade before. I personally would not use Jade in this way to manifest prosperity. I only wear or carry it during the day. Many crystals can disturb your sleep or stimulate dreams (and nightmares that contain our fears and subconscious). People can have bad reactions to some stones. I don’t believe in disposing of crystals, for this reason. If you don’t want to try it during the day or risk testing it again, then you could pass it on to someone who might benefit from it.

      1. Cherry

        Kirsty, it sounds like your Jade put you into a state of sleep paralysis. Ethan’s suggestions are spot on, but if you want to look at a replacement crystal for the same job, I would suggest Green Aventurine, which has similar properties to Green Jade but is energetically gentler. You could also try Peridot, which is not only lucky, but also good at keeping bad dreams at bay.

        Love and Light.

  76. B

    Hey Ethan,

    Iver got a moldavite and in the first few hours of having it i felt its energy to be too powerful for me. I do want to give it its respect. I just feel i am not ready for it now. Do you have any suggestions with what i could do to remove its energy from me for a while. I thought of selling it to somebody else or even putting it in a different location, away from my house. Would that help me with not feeling its energy?

    Thank You

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      Yes, you could keep it away from you for a while. I would focus on grounding yourself (in any way you like) and use grounding crystals to help this. I would wait a bit before deciding what to do with the stone

  77. Mellissa B

    Disclaimer: I always cleanse my crystals, and regularly, including using palo santo in my house in general. I’m a social introvert type with pets, & lots of house plants I’m very sensitive to herbs/plants and need very minute amounts to receive their benefits. My friends, family and even my boss & coworkers have all joked about me being psychic (I’m not) because of my high intuition.

    Over the years, my eyes have been attracted to gorgeous appearing Labradorite and I’ve picked up small pieces here or there… but always had a feeling like I should get rid of it or pass it along to someone else – which I always wound up doing. However, in 2018, desiring to strengthen my third eye (which I’ve been able to “feel” my entire life) and get more in touch with my already strong intuition – I purchased a rather large piece of labradorite that I was very drawn to. After cleansing it, I took it with me on a drive into the country, sat down and decided to meditate with it but never happened because . Immediately upon bringing awareness to my 3rd eye, I felt a huge rush of nausea accompanied by what also felt like nausea but inside my head with a rush of gloom & doom type anxiety. That night, I had two full blown panic attacks & a friend had to come stay with me. I did yoga each day as a means to help, completely cut out caffeine and tried to meditate but the anxiety was affecting me so terribly that I couldn’t function at woke – I had to start SSRIs and be on them for a few months to help (weened off of them correctly after that). I would never have labradorite around again, yet when I see it infer a lot of sadness and disappointment that I’m unable to work with it. I feel like it calls to me, yet I am at the same time feel repulsed when I see it. I have not experienced this with any other Crystal/stone.

    Not sure it means anything, but rose quarts, clear crystal quarts & hematite do absolutely nothing for me, my vibe or my life.

    1. Cherry

      Hi Mellissa,

      Sometimes things can happen this way, and it mostly goes like this: the stone in question – the Labradorite – has a quality or power you’re in need of, but it isn’t the correct stone (or more probably, in this case, the correct species of same) to deliver the help you need.

      I recommend you look into other crystals which have the same properties of strengthening your third eye. Now that I come to think about it – and with the help of my Micro-Labradorite/Galaxyite/Galaxite, ironically (I’m so worn out as I write this message, virtually none of my higher abilities are working properly) – it could well be that your third eye is closed, blocked or polluted with negative energy, and that’s why you’ve been having the issues you have, including the non-reaction to the Quartzes and Haematite. The third eye chakra is a crucial part of our ability to sense these things.

      If I were to do a face to face helping session with you, were that possible, I’d firstly check out that Labradorite (which I might well, in this scenario, end up taking off your hands because I’m extremely fond of the species) for any contamination with bad energy, then look to find a compatible crystal which would help you clear up your third eye. Since that isn’t possible, I recommend you try out one of the dark blue to indigo gemstones (Indigo Gabbro, Sodalite, Lapis Lazuli etc) or possibly a purple one (Amethyst would be a good starting point here, and you’d have the choice of lavender, regular or dark Amethyst, whichever one you were most drawn to; failing that, there are alternatives, like Sugilite or Charoite – though these are potent third eye crystals and may be too powerful for you – or the somewhat softer energies of Emerald).

      Love and Light.

  78. Alea Dean

    Tonight was the first time I used crystals and oracle cards to help me. I have a long history of trauma and I have emotions that are stuck in my body. I struggle with depression, anxiety, addictions. Well first I smudged my crystals I wanted to work with. Rose quartz, aquamarine, petrified wood and amethyst. I then meditated imagining I was being grounded to the earth, as I was holding the petrified wood. I started feeling tingling in my head. I then held amethyst. Tears came down my face. I thought maybe I should stop so I focus on doing my spread of 3 cards with the question, “How can I increase self love” The cards were spot on. I was starting to feel uncomfortable and was dissociating. My face was tight and head was tingling. My throat was tight. I then tried to meditate to ground myself but it was getting worse so I stopped. I felt detached for the next several hours no matter what I tried doing. I distracted myself by reading articles, took a bath, online shopping. I fear that when I look at crystals, ect I will associate it with my “negative” experience. I have a history of dissociation, during EFT (tapping), in traditional therapy, acupuncture and had an out of body experience during a massage that took me back to childhood trauma.

    My question is when I try to release my trauma why isn’t it helping? Im re traumatizing myself and yes, I am currently working with a therapist. I feel like it will always be stuck and I cant let go. I try to dance it out, journal, do self care but NOTHING helps!!!

    1. Cherry

      Alea, please try to be patient. I understand that you want to be free of this trauma – who wouldn’t? – but from the sound of it, it’s quite serious. Your crystals can and will help you, and you’re working with the right ones, but it cannot be done overnight without a real and immediate risk of worse damage. They know this, and they’ll help you release it and heal it at a safe rate rather than do harm.

      Keep working, and – from experience – I can say, if you start to think of your crystals as friends instead of just crystals, it should help you to not associate them with extra trauma.

      Love and Light.

  79. Cate

    Thank you for this information! I have a Smoky Quartz that helps me feel grounded and seems to take away anxiety. It also feels like it protects me too. My husband has asked for it on two different occasions. Both times he has had a serious reaction. The stone seems to do the opposite for him. He becomes extremely angry, paces around and is very mean/dismissive towards me and our kids. I’m not letting him have the stone again and I need to find a way to slowly help him uncover and heal whatever is at the root of this. Any advice is welcome! Thank you again.

  80. Cherry

    Cate, Smoky Quartz can be pretty intense.

    If I had to guess, I’d probably say that either your Smoky Quartz is over-grounding your husband, leaving him feeling worn out and unable to ‘get off the ground’, so to speak, rather like an overloaded aeroplane. This can happen to me, too, and I always find myself becoming somewhat aggressive and uncaring until I get my energetic mojo back.

    Alternatively, it could be that your husband isn’t ‘compatible’ with Smoky Quartz; the simple fact is that everyone has one or more crystals they just cannot work with, even with the best will in the world.

    As for any anger issues he might have, Rose Quartz is the obvious choice, with Amethyst a close second; but Morganite under his pillow may also be helpful because this gemstone, the pink form of Beryl, is an excellent crystal for helping men to balance their masculine and feminine energies and/or overcome any toxic masculinity (outdated or overly aggressive notions of the meaning of manhood). Of course I don’t mean or wish to imply that your husband definitely has either of these problems; it’s just that without knowing more about him and his upbringing I can only guess at what might be behind his attitude when under the energetic influence of your crystal.

    Love and Light.

    1. Cherry

      Lissa, Labradorite is one of the most powerful stones out there. But the fact that it doesn’t do anything at all to you, suggests to me that it simply isn’t the stone you need. Perhaps you could try something else?

      Love and Light.

  81. Aoife

    I seem to have had a bad reaction with a rose quartz , it made me feel very very angry and irritated. I have stopped using it for now abd feel much better .

    1. Cherry

      Aoife, without meaning to imply anything about you, sometimes it’s the case that Rose Quartz makes more masculine people irritable because it’s such a feminine stone. Sometimees I find it a little like trying to deal with an overly girly-girly friend who’s wittering on unstoppably about makeup while I’m trying to concentrate on something much more important; but at others, when I don’t need to be so dynamic, I’ve been somewhere only to find myself confronted with an unbalanced, overly masculine atmosphere, (and/or I’m stressed to heck), it’s extremely helpful.

      Love and Light.

  82. J

    I have used Rose Quartz the last two nights and it causes a lot of pain in my hips and legs, the pain goes away as soon as I remove the rose quartz.

    1. Cherry

      J, there could be quite a number of reasons for this.

      First of all, it would help me to know whereabouts on your person you placed the Rose Quartz: it isn’t, for example, a good idea to use it on your root chakra, because it’s just the wrong crystal for that chakra and you’d be better off with a red, brown or black stone.

      Second, the crystal itself may be unhappy with where you put it and/or how you were holding it. Crystals don’t like to be gripped too hard; some of my palmstones or “cuddle stones” (like a palmstone but a lot less flat, sort of a giant tumblestone) will direct pain down my wrist if I grip them too hard, to signal me to loosen up my hold on them.

      Your Rose Quartz might have detected something problematic and is trying to sort it out: in the symbology of the human body, legs can mean support and/or progress, so if there’s some emotional issue with regards to those life areas, your Rose Quartz may be trying to highlight it for you and even help to heal it. I’ve been through this a few times, and it’s a little like surgery: it will make a huge difference, but there has to be some pain before any improvement happens.

      It could also be that your Rose Quartz needs cleansing and perhaps charging, and is rejecting working with you right now on those grounds; please do ensure that it gets cleansed and charged to eliminate this possible cause, before you make another attempt.

      Lastly, of course, it could simply be that Rose Quartz isn’t the right crystal for you (or that this specific Rose Quartz wasn’t meant for you). Many authors on the subject tout this form of Quartz as a universal healer, but Ethan is the only author I’ve read who actually includes the caveat: everyone has at least one crystal that they just can’t work with, no matter what they try. And, if you’ve read through the earlier comments, you’ll know by now that problems with Rose Quartz are more common than most authors would have you believe.

  83. Isolde Swonild

    Recently I’ve been wearing a prehnite/mother of pearl pendant daily (even at night). I’ve had the pendant for a while but didn’t wear it much. One thing I did notice when wearing it was that my dreams became much more vivid (I’m already a vivid dreamer, so that’s saying something). However, just in the past week I started feeling really unwell. I even went to the doctor, but all my tests came back totally normal. It suddenly occurred to me that it might be the pendant, and I couldn’t get it off fast enough. The second I took it off I felt lighter, the pain in my joints eased, and my persistent headache even started to go away. I’ve never cleansed this crystal, and after reading this article, I’m starting to wonder if it was negative energy absorbed by the stone that was making me feel ill.

    1. Cherry

      @Isolde, that would be the first thing which would occur to me in your situation. Prehnite, being a green crystal, shouldn’t be causing joint pains — I have Ankylosing Spondylitis, and although I don’t have any Prehnite, I know that green crystals are powerfully anti-inflammatory. Getting Arthritis-type pains like you describe, wouldn’t make sense.

      Our crystals are constantly taking hits for us, and even leaving your pendant in the same room where, for example, a family argument has taken place, can easily lead to it absorbing that negative energy; then, when you wear the pendant, that negativity will transfer to you. If that was my pendant, I’d look to give it a deep cleanse, erasing any and all energies upon it which aren’t intrinsic to the crystals themselves. Just, please, be careful about chemical sensitivities when choosing a cleansing method.

      Love and Light.

  84. Ray

    Just tried crystals for the first time. Picked up a clear quarts shard necklace from hobby lobby. I washed it off for several minutes in warm water and put it on. It made me feel weird as s**t. Totally blank but focused. A little irritable, but basically shut off all my emotions and felt disconnected from everything and everyone. I’m INFJ and it was the strangest experience I’ve ever had. I wanted to block out negative energy but ended up totally blank, mentally and emotionally. The funniest thing in the world could happen right in front of me, and I would feel nothing. I threw it out the window, I never want to experiment with this c**p again.

  85. L.C.

    I held a Lithium Quartz Crystal to help me sleep, when I awaken, I noticed a blood blister on the hand I was holding it in. Should I be worried?.
    Also I have a Shungite Dounut pendant, I got it back when I had really bad headaches and body pain, now I wear all day, everyday, If I take it off for cleaning and recharging, after about 10mins or less without it, all the pain starts coming back in full force, plus I go deaf in one ear, same ear every time too, even if I put it back on right when it starts, the pain is still there for a week, but it eases slowly over time, Is this normal?

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      Its always hard to know if the Lithium Quartz had anything to do with that. I’ve not heard of anything like that before. With the Shungite, that is not something I have heard of but its your experience. I would try to cleanse the shungite while wearing it. If you cleanse your aura with sound or smoke methods for example everything you are wearing also gets cleansed.

    2. Cherry

      Hi L.C.,

      As far as Lithium Quartz goes, I’d be surprised if yours directly caused the blood blister. It’s possible it ended up in an unfavourable position in your hand during the night, though, and the blister happened that way instead.

      Your Shungite has an interesting effect, but one I’m familiar with myself: I have the same experience if I take off my Black Tourmaline for a similar amount of time, and I have Ankylosing Spondylitis. The pain just skyrockets! Now, it happens if I also take off the Labradorite pendant I got for Christmas. Both crystals are superb against low back pain, and I have several fused vertebrae at the base of my spine. Needless to say, that’s h*llaciously painful.

      Now, I don’t wish to alarm you – my condition is quite rare, so it’s very doubtful that you also have it – but did you ever find out a reason for your pain? These things can often stem from a problem with the spine, and there’s quite a list of those. Not to worry, because nowadays, the vast majority can be sorted out; I’m just unlucky enough to have one of the few that can’t. Indeed, back in the early 90’s, AS could easily turn into a death sentence; that’s why I wanted to reassure you that it’s not likely you have it. It isn’t a death sentence any more; it’s complicated, like all autoimmune diseases, but it can be held back to the point where a normal lifespan is wholly possible.

      As for solutions, Ethan nailed it: cleanse your Shungite while you’re wearing it, because that will also cleanse your aura, and many people don’t do that enough to maintain a healthy one. Win-win.

  86. Nichola lord

    Had a really bad reaction after meditating with Poly Chrome Jasper. Excessive heat and burning and redness in the hands that lasted a number of hours. At the time I put it down too the crystal being too powerful as they were quite large crystals which I then gifted to a friend. The same thing occurred 12 months after with two small Mookalike jasper crystals that I wore against the skin for 30 minutes and got the same reaction. Your comments on this would be appreciated.

  87. Cherry

    Hi Nichola,

    Don’t worry, you’re not alone on that one. I find Jasper a weird crystal to work with: often it will make me feel heavy, sick and dizzy (over-grounded, which to me is worse than not being grounded enough) instead of calm like it’s supposed to. There are a lot of varieties of it, though, so my initial thinking is, you’ve picked two you aren’t compatible with.

    The other thing that occurs to me, is that both Polychrome and Mookaite Jasper have a very strong connection to the element of Fire; if, astrologically speaking, your birth chart is strong in the Water element, or if you have a strong non-astrological connection to it, then many if not all astrologers would probably recommend you steer clear of Fire stones. I’m the same: I can barely get along with Carnelian, and I’m pretty much hopeless with the Jaspers, except Red Creek, Ocean, and – ironically – Mookaite. I can work with Mookaite, I think, because it also has a strong Earth resonance, and I’m an Earth sign.

    Perhaps you might find Ocean Jasper (or Sea Jasper, the same stone under another name) a little more comfortable? I find it has little or no Fire resonance to it: instead, it bears a gorgeous, oceanic energy imprint — especially where you find it sold as Ocean Jasper, which means it’s come from the deposit on the coast of Madagascar and can only be mined at low tide. It’ll be a little more expensive than Sea Jasper, which comes from the same deposit, but inland, and you can pick your preferred colour or combination (grey, brown, yellow, pink, green — mine is sea-green). You might also, if working with Jasper is important to you, want to consider the more Earthy Jaspers, like Picasso, Brecciated, Kambaba, Green Hair, or Zebra.

    Timing might be another factor. Up until last August, I could only work with Red Creek Jasper, but it was then that I got my Ocean Jasper, and apparently that was the right time, because now I’m looking seriously at Maligano and Picture Jasper. It might be that you can work with Mookaite or Polychrome Jasper, but not quite yet. Something which precipitates a big change in your life, like for example falling in love or having a child, can also precipitate growth as regards crystals: after I got my Ankylosing Spondylitis diagnosis, my working ‘range’, so to speak, widened enormously, and I found myself working easily with crystals which had previously been mostly or completely intractable. Including the sanity-saver that is Emerald.

    If you still wish to keep working with Polychrome and Mookaite, then I advise you to limit your contact with either to a short span of time, perhaps a few minutes, build from there, and keep a Water stone to hand to help balance their Fire energy (but I strongly advise you don’t let them touch). Celestite would be good, as would Blue Tourmaline, Pink Tourmaline, Sapphire, Aquamarine, Azurite, Chrysocolla, Pearl and Lepidolite.

    Love and Light.

  88. Krystal

    I recently bought green jade but suspect it isn’t green jade but green amethyst. Only because i could feel the energy on my face and releasing out through my crown. Even though it’s not the stone I wanted, it helps but recently wearing it I’ve been getting joint paint and shaking. So I had to take it off. This is my only bad experience with a crystal. So I’m scared to wear it again. It works on my glands and it’s way to strong, do you think the joint pain and the shakes will go away if I continue to wear it? or should I just return the crystal? I really need advice. Please help.

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      There is no way for me to know as every person is different. I’ve put all my suggestions in the article and its up to you to test and decide for yourself. Green Amethyst does not look much like Jade though. Jade is mostly transluscent or opaque. All the green Amethyst I’ve seen is transparent and pale green.

    2. Cherry

      I have to agree with Ethan here, Krystal: in your case, there’s not really enough info available to call it. There are also a large variety of possible reasons for your experience.

      If your green crystal is Jade, then it will be very slightly translucent or completely opaque, and a very deep, rich green, darker than an Emerald; if it’s Prasiolite (Green Amethyst) then it should be significantly translucent to transparent, and leek green rather than deep green. The problem is, there are a whole host of different crystals which come in green: examples include Apatite, Tourmaline, Beryl (Emerald, of course), Apophyllite, Prasiolite as you know, Sapphire, Calcite, Fluorite, Serpentine (AKA New Jade), and yes, as every crystal person knows, Jade itself, known in mineralogical circles as Jadeite. Green Diamonds also exist, but they’re out of many people’s budget.

      If you could provide a fuller description of your stone, it may help someone to recognise what it is, and from there it may be possible – no guarantees, mind – to eliminate at least some of the possible reasons, thereby narrowing it down and making it easier to work out why you’re experiencing these joint pains. As an Ankylosing Spondylitis patient, I know only too well how miserable they are; but green crystals are supposed to help silence them, not cause them.

      I do also have one question, the answer to which doesn’t depend upon the crystal’s actual identity but may help uncover the problem without needing to know it: did you remember to cleanse and bond with the stone before you wore it? Doing so is extremely important, but it’s also a commonplace mistake, and it may explain things readily.

      Love and Light

  89. Linda Rance

    Recently brought a shungite, eagle eye, larvikite teardrop necklace – wanted it for negative energies (emf’s etc) – and people have said how their energy has increased. had such a stressful time since, not exactly bad luck but things have been tough, distressing, feeling drained. Have removed the necklace tonight to see if things change. Life and events have been really testing me. Usually wear black obsidian or clear quartz with no side effects. Must admit I did not cleanse the necklace when I received it.

    When I first started looking at crystals I was drawn to pyrite which slightly disappointed me as it wasn’t the prettiest in the shop but each time I picked it up, it warmed my hand and body. I have a lovely dragon blood stone that regularly goes missing but seems to turn up every now and again when I guess I need it most. I’m a Taurus so maybe the three stone necklace is wrong for my sign. Two close people to me recently remarked on my three stone necklace so maybe I will gift it to them.

    1. Cherry

      Linda, your star sign isn’t necessarily a guide to which crystals you should or shouldn’t work with. I’m a Virgo, yet one of my ‘crystal besties’ is Fluorite, which is a stone recommended for my opposing sign, Pisces. My mother was a Pisces; she wanted to work with Fluorite, but she simply couldn’t make it work for her, in spite of the supposed Astrological compatibility.

      I’ve been working with crystals for approaching 35 years now, but although I’m very curious, and haven’t yet encountered it in the real world, every time I go to buy a piece of Shungite online I’m repelled by it. I guess either the time isn’t right, or maybe it isn’t the right stone for me. Plenty of other crystal workers have reported having significant side effects from this stone too, so you’re not alone.

      Although like me you’re an Earth sign, considering the crystals in your necklace, I think the whole may have too much Earth energy for you at this time. You can gift it to someone else, but it may be that it’s come to you in advance of some future event for which you’ll need its help. If you do decide to part company with it, then your Clear Quartz and Obsidian are perfectly capable of protecting you from negativity and EMFs, but there are other crystals – Fluorite, coincidentally, is one, and I didn’t even remember that point as I wrote the beginning of this missive, so perhaps I’ve been guided to tell you about it – which can provide the same protection. For a bonus, Fluorite is physically tougher than the fragile Shungite — although it can still be brittle, so I recommend keeping it clear of any harder stones.

      Love and Light.

  90. Michelle

    I’m so glad I found your post on this subject. At times I feel as if I have had too high a dose of one crystal or another–especially while wearing them as bracelets or keeping them in my energy field for an extended amount of time. I am highly intuitive and very sensitive to energies so I notice these things quickly. I will feel “buzzy” typically in the hand or arm that is in contact with the crystal and will feel very ungrounded. When I remove the crystal from my energy field and release the excess energy the uneasy feelings go away. I can work with the crystal again in the future the next time I feel drawn to it, but often I will need it for shorter and shorter times. This isn’t a topic that I see discussed often at all and I am so appreciative of your post.

    1. Cherry

      @Michelle, you might find a gentle grounding crystal will help your energetic sensitivity. I’m the same, particularly with crystal energies and ‘energy of place’.

      As an Ankylosing Spondylitis patient, I have to spend significant amounts of time at my local hospital (MRI scans are *not* fun for people like you and I). The place has a terribly negative atmosphere, heavy and dark — I’m guessing it’s a vast amount of accumulated sickness energy, and more from any number of people leaving this life there since the place opened in 1968. It used to give me headaches which were only one step away from a full-blown migraine – something my maternal Grandmother suffered but I don’t – until I got my Black Tourmaline pendant/amulet. That wonderful and beloved crystal not only stopped the negativity and the headaches; it rid me of a very unpleasant rheumatologist who… well, my maternal Grandmother would have called him “a right old Negative Nelly”. It was actually quite a funny moment: he kept staring at my Tourmaline and looking very unnerved – I just knew it was bouncing his negativity right back at him – then told me I looked like a witch. For reference, I was wearing a black polo neck and trousers with silver and white trainers. Well, it wouldn’t have mattered if I’d walked in there in full High Priestess ceremonial attire (I’m not a priestess of any kind or affiliation, although I did consider that kind of training); he was being completely unprofessional, and I soon got myself a change of rheumatologist. And had a good giggle about it.

      Black Tourmaline is really good with me, because Tourmaline is one of my soul crystals,
      but it may not be for you; if not, then something (probably my gorgeous, hyper-powered 4lb Clear Quartz, which I’m cuddling as I write this) tells me that Apache Tear Obsidian would be a very helpful crystal for you. It’s Obsidian, with all that entails; but it’s probably the gentlest form of Obsidian there is, just as protective as the usual sort but not even slightly so intense. Wearing an Apache Tear, perhaps in a vortex pendant (spiral cage) so it can be removed for cleansing/charging etc if needs be, will help shield you from negative energy and will also ground excess energy away, returning it to the Earth to be neutralised a little like a lightning strike. If you find Apache Tear Obsidian too mild for your needs, then I recommend an Obsidian arrowhead, worn point down.

      Love and Light.

  91. Katie

    I have been carrying around my moldovite all day and my whole body is so irritated and itchy tonight for no apparent reason. I feel like I have fire ants all over me. I have put it away for now because this is unbearable. There is no other reason for it that I can think of.

    1. Cherry

      Moldavite’s a funny one, no doubt about it. I wonder if it’s something to do with the souls handling it, rather than the crystal itself? Coincidentally, a Wiccan friend in Australia, and her family and friends, have just been through a succession of very stressful, yet very cleansing, experiences thanks to a piece.

      I must admit, I’m curious, though given my Andromedan origins I’d be surprised if it did a great deal for me. I almost bought a piece at Christmas, but I opted for Labradorite instead, and honestly, I’m glad about that. I think I’ll have to look into this and find out the answer for myself.

      As far as your experience is concerned (fire ants? Crumbs!) I think the Moldavite, a crystal of change if ever there was one, is doing some work to realign something. Often – Emerald can be the same on this point, I find – a major change is required in our lives before we can comfortably work with these kinds of crystals. I havw a beautiful raw Russian Emerald which came to me in 1990, but until my AS diagnosis he would only do background work. Now I call him my Siberian Shaman, because of his glorious, mystical energy. He’s also awesome at shutting down inflammation.

      Love and Light.

  92. Kitty

    hello from 2022 , I read your articles gaining some insight.
    I had Labradorite heart -shaped , diameter 10 cm . Every time I touch it or hold it in my hand, my hand sting – the sensations is like many pin-pricked /numbs on my palms . I ‘m a healer , so my sens . for this is quite real. I try to cleanse it many times with many energy types , it’s always stay near my laptop -herd crystal cleaning music x20 times up since December 2021 . So I guess ,I need to let it go , or not keep it near my desk . My conclude is maybe the crystal is not marched my aura/chakra . this morning I try to hold it in my hand (with my energy protections) , surely the stinging sensation is still there.

    Do you have any experiences like this with Labradorite?

    1. Cherry

      Hi Kitty,

      Don’t give up on that Labradorite just yet. That prickling sensation is something I experience quite regularly with new crystals, including, just yesterday, a quite spectacular and unusual Labradorite, a Golden Healer Quartz pebble (first time using) and, only today, a Brandberg Amethyst sceptre (first time with Brandberg too). I also experienced it with my recently purchased first Charoite and, way back in1995 before I even turned 18, my magnificent Atlantean Quartz. Each of these crystals is already proving to be, or has proven to be, super important to me.

      I think you should consider giving that Labradorite some more of your time. I’ve found the prickling tends to be a first attempt at adjusting to my energies; as long as I can give the crystal some proper bonding time, it soon passes.

      Love and Light.

  93. Jaidyn

    I am having a somewhat negative time with amethyst. I bought an amethyst necklace from a festival for me and my grandma, which I haven’t cleansed yet. I have not given my grandma her necklace yet. I decided to wear the necklace I bought and during that day I felt perfectly fine. I slept in the necklace and woke up with anxiety and a headache (which is very common for me, I stayed up late and when I stay up a bit late I get anxiety) so I thought it was normal. My dreams were also very active. Anyways, i have some suspicions. I am could be sensitive to the energy of the amethyst after being exposed for a long time, or I could be healing with my third eye opening, or I need to cleanse my crystal. Needless to say, tonight I will be cleansing my bracelet I got for my mom and the matching necklaces I got.
    The anxiety and headache still linger, but not as bad as when I was wearing the necklace. I also do not feel like I dislike amethyst, more so that I love it. I feel drawn to it, mostly because it’s pretty and that it helps with anxiety, which I have a bad time with. I am just confused as to why amethyst, which is supposed to help anxiety, is giving me anxiety.

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      Firstly, if I understand you right, you wore a 2nd hand crystal necklace that you didn’t cleanse. This is not a good idea and I always advise people to cleanse all new crystals. Many people find Amethyst to disturb their sleep (including me). Its a pretty powerful stone and as I said above, you can have a bad reaction to any crystal. There are lots of crystals for things like anxiety, not all will work for everyone. Find what works best for you.

  94. Simon

    I’ve suddenly come down with an anxiety disorder and I’ve been having panic attacks and don’t know what sets them off… However i only seem to have them when I’m wearing ruby? Which is bizarre, because I’ve worn it for quite some time, it’s come out of the blue. I always feel better when i remove it. I’ve been wearing a blavk Tourmaline bracelet to protect against psychic attack and to keep me grounded because i disassociate quite a bit as of late. I’ve never had anxiety. EVER. This is all too new to me and it overwhelms me.

    1. Cherry

      Simon, Ruby has a lot of connotations and energies that mean it can be a hard crystal to sleep whilst wearing.

      Not the least of which is that Ruby is a gemstone of the Sun. Heliodor is one of my soul crystals, and every bit as Solar as its name suggests; I can sleep easily with Heliodor – indeed, my two very special raw Heliodor crystals, which are brothers (meaning they grew together) are always at my side, day and night, and I get quite anxious about being separated from them. Yet I also have trouble sleeping with my Ruby pendant on.

      However the anxiety you’re experiencing is the reverse of that, and I think your Ruby needs to be cleansed, because anxiety when wearing a crystal, which dissipates when said crystal is removed, is a classic sign of your Ruby having negative energy attached to it.

      Ruby being a Sun crystal, I think maybe the Flame cleanse is most appropriate, or possibly smudging/incense cleansing or Earth cleansing. I would not recommend Water cleansing, as this may cause problems with the stone’s Fire-related energies and may energetically harm it.

      Love and Light.

  95. Sophie Rose Harrington

    I used some new crystals before realising that you had to cleanse last night. Unfortunately I had some really strange/ disturbing visions whilst meditation and then went on to have some linked: terrifying nightmares. Can you advise on what I should do / why this happened? Thanks 🙂

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      If I understand correctly it sounds like you have answered your own question. If the crystals were not cleansed they could have been holding some negative energy. This can cause disturbing visions and nightmares in some people. Give them a good cleansing and consecrate them. Lots of crystals can disturb your sleep.

    2. Cherry

      Sophie, it sounds like your new crystals have some negative energy on them. Your first step is to get rid of it. Then, once they’re cleansed, you should be okay; but if not, that means the bad energy has transferred to you.

      If that is the case, you need to rid yourself of it. You could ask your guides, or your angels, to help purify you, and you can also smudge your aura with white sage or palo santo. Even a mindful bath or shower, with intention to cleanse body and energies alike, can be wonderful.

      Love and Light.

  96. Donna

    I have had a bad reaction to my Rainbow citrine crystal necklace I was wearing it and found a uncomfortable prickling sensation near chest and felt anxious like necklace was strangling me. I took it off and held it in my hand and the same sensation when I put on my light to see my hand had a small dermal like burn.

    1. Sam H

      Hi Donna, my suggestion is to cleanse your crystal. First, as you have had a skin reaction to it, to ensure that there is not anything on the crystal that you are having an allergic reaction to, run it under the cold water tap and give it a gentle clean (if it is an intricate design then use a soft toothbrush) or just use your hand. Dry it off with a soft piece of cotton and then let it air dry for 24 hours. After that I would re-set the stones vibration using a singing bowl, tsinga bell, tuning fork or any bell (you can always bang a pot with a wooden spoon if you don’t have anything else) and again leave the stone for 24 hours to re-set itself. If, after that, you are still having a reaction, then my suggestion is that the stone is telling you it is not the right time to work with it, in which case set it aside for at least 3 months and try again. It is really important that the jewellery we wear is cleansed vibrationally to clear out any negativity that it may absorb and bells/singing bowls are the easiest and best way to do this – all bells and bowls should be struck/rung a minimum of 3 times and always ask your stones to work with you for your highest good. Namaste and blessed be.

  97. Cherry

    Donna, it sounds like your necklace needs to be cleansed. I’ve seen and heard similar stories over and over: this crystal felt physically heavy, that crystal gave me a feeling of anxiety, et cetera.

    Citrine being what it is – one of the Solar Gems – I wouldn’t recommend water or Moon cleansing for this. Citrine seems to respond best to earth element cleansing (which usually entails burying it, or placing it in a plant pot if you can’t bury it — if you do bury it in the earth, please make sure to mark the spot, and place the necklace in a glass container to stop it getting physically dirty), incense/smudging, or the flame cleanse. Or, of course, cleansing by sunlight, though I would limit its exposure to an hour (two hours on a cloudy day) to help prevent colour fading. You could also place it on an Amethyst cluster, since the two are closely related.

    As far as the dermal injury is concerned, I believe that to be related to the Solar energy Citrine carries; it’s beautiful, but extremely powerful, and it’s wholly possible that its strength has combined with whatever negative energy has polluted your necklace to produce an unusual adverse reaction: physical hurt like this is more usually associated with a fundamental incompatibility between crystal and owner, but I don’t think that’s the case here.

    Love and Light.

  98. Lee

    I was drawn to an apatite crystal and as soon as I got it home i cleansed it but when holding it had the strongest reaction I have ever had with a crystal in that my mind became very blocked and i could feel pressure on either side of my head. I have immediately stopped contact with the crystal but am still weirdly drawn to it and want to try again. Have you any advice? Is this just a crystal that I should not be messing with? Why am I drawn to it?

  99. Cherry

    Hi Lee,

    Apatite is a ‘cousin’ to Tourmaline; if you’ve ever had problems with Tourmaline, then there may be a clue there.

    You have unfortunately left out the one piece of information that might have helped me gain a better idea of the problem: which colour of Apatite you bought. Apatite, like Tourmaline, comes in a wide variety of colours, some easier to obtain than others; on that basis I could hazard a guess that your Apatite is blue, but I could easily be wrong, because Green Apatite is also fairly readily available.

    Working on the assumption that you have a Blue Apatite, I’d suggest that perhaps your third eye chakra could be blocked and the stone is trying to help.

    I recommend a gradual adjustment period, where you work with your crystal for only a few minutes at a time at first, while you get used to its energy (Apatite is quite a powerful crystal), and then later lengthening the time you spend with it until your energies and its, harmonise. The fact that you have been and still are strongly drawn to it, tells me that it isn’t a crystal you should give up on: when we’re strongly drawn to a specific kind of crystal, or even one individual stone, it means that either it has something we need, or there is a commonality, with that crystal’s energies being very similar to our own. I’ve been drawn to crystals that make perfect sense for me – Apatite being one of them, coincidentally – but then, I’ve also been drawn to crystals that don’t make a bit of sense at the time; it’s only later that the reason for that attraction dawns clear, usually during or after the fact, leaving me both amazed, and grateful that that particular stone came into my life.

    The other thing I think it could be, as I related above, is that your Apatite has come to you in advance of some future need, and it might be trying to tell you that although you are meant to work with it, the time hasn’t yet arrived; in that case, I would still accustom yourself to its energies as already mentioned, but then wait and see what happens. Meantime, I can recommend not using the Apatite in conjunction with any amplifier crystal, like Clear Quartz, Danburite or Zircon (and without knowing what other crystals you have, I wouldn’t be able to advise you on which of them are amplifiers) — if you’re not yet comfortable with your Apatite’s energy, then amplifying its energy with something like Clear Quartz, would only amplify your discomfort.

    Love and Light.

  100. Kimberly

    Hello, I am curious if anyone has ever had or heard of a reaction to Halite or Selenite. I am completely new to this, so new I don’t even own any yet lol. I am asking because I was advised to use Black obsidian to ward off negative energy, and I wanted to get some for my boyfriend who is struggling with severe negative thoughts right now. During my search for how to buy it, I came across some negative side effects, which lead to me more research and finding this article. I do not want to give him something that could make him feel worse!! He is extremely sensitive. So I looked into alternative options and see selenite and halite can be useful for cleansing yourself of negativity. Would either of these be a much gentler option for him?

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      Yes, you could try Selenite or Halite but there is no way to know how someone else will respond to a crystal. Bad reactions to crystals are really not that common and not something I would expect or worry too much about.

    2. Sam

      You can react to any crystal and I would certainly trust your gut instinct and stay away from Obsidian – it is not a stone that I recommend to anyone and most definitely not to someone who is new to using crystals (I do not like the stone and avoid it completely!).
      That said, I would recommend trying Black Tourmaline. It is my go to stone for clearing negativity and helping to stay grounded (which is really important in our day to day lives) and I carry one with me at all times, I find it calming and love it. You could also try a crystal to help lift his spirits and give him more confidence and would suggest Carnelian to help with this.
      Selenite is good for combing the aura to clear negativity and for connecting with the Angels. Another good stone for calming and helping with negative thoughts is Blue Lace Agate.
      Hope this helps, Namaste, Sam

  101. Cherry

    Hi Kimberley,

    Given the sheer number of crystals which can repel negativity (the two of you have a number of options here), I feel that you should consider taking your boyfriend crystal shopping and letting him pick for himself, rather than risk buying him something he can’t get along with. Everyone has one or more crystals they just can’t work with, but – more especially when he is physically present among them – his intuition will guide him towards the crystal(s) which will work best for him. That’s the nearest thing there is to a sure-fire way to prevent any bad reactions.

    Sam is entirely correct about Black Tourmaline – with 35 years of experience working with crystals, I still rely heavily on it to repel negative energy – but I would have to advise you that the problem you’ve expressed concern about, can still arise: Black Tourmaline is at least as powerful as Obsidian, albeit it does things rather differently.

    Sam is also right about Obsidian perhaps not being the right crystal for your boyfriend’s current situation: the stone might tend to bring the source of his negative thought patterns sharply to the surface and push him into dealing with it before he feels ready. Though it does offer comfort in the face of what it shows us, Obsidian is best kept for intentional shadow work, which again, given what you wrote about your boyfriend’s negative thought patterns, I wouldn’t recommend.

    If for whatever reason you’re unable to take him crystal shopping, then the Quartzes are normally a pretty safe bet, as are the Agates; you could also look at Peridot, Fluorite, Topaz, one of the Jaspers, and possibly Labradorite, which is superb at getting rid of negativity, but I mention it last of all because it’s also a potent psychic stimulant – energetically akin to a double-strength shot of Java for the third eye – and it might be a bit too powerful because of that.

    Love and Light.

    1. Sam

      Arika, my instinct is telling me that your reaction to both these crystals is more about you working with your heart chakra to open, balance and align it rather than you not getting on with the crystals. When you have a reaction to a crystals that you can’t work with it tends to be headache inducing or feelings of nausea, but a pain in your heart, with pink heart based stones, as I said, I think that is more about your heart chakra and healing any binds around your heart. Many blessings, Sam

  102. Cherry

    Sam’s right, Arika; the pain you felt is a signal that your heart chakra needs a bit of work.

    The heart chakra, in my 35 years of experience, is quite possibly the most commonplace one to become closed off or blocked. Hardly surprising, really: other people can be pretty cruel, or at least thoughtless (and that sometimes extends from other people, to life itself). None of their fault – at least, not usually – but true nonetheless. What others say, and do, can cause serious energetic pollution. I think from time to time, whether or not they know it, many people’s heart chakras can end up this way. I know mine has, and to judge by the recent behaviour of the UK government, I don’t believe there’s an open heart chakra in all of parliament!

    I would suggest you work on this, gently and carefully. I can’t tell you what might have caused your issue, but I can suggest you temporarily set aside your Morganite and Stilbite for the gentlest heart crystal, Rose Quartz. Rose Quartz, the crystal of unconditional love, is great at cleansing any negative energy from the heart and, with a little meditation and some patience – depending on the cause and the fine details of the problem, it might take some time – you should find the chakra opens back up and lets that loving energy (which is one of if not the most powerful force in the universe) flows as it should. Something you may want to consider practicing/meditating on, if you don’t already, is loving yourself — affirmations along the lines of, “I am loved. I am secure in love. I love fully and completely,” can really work wonders. And of course – my apologies if you already know this – if you don’t love(and respect) yourself, it’s very difficult to love others.

    Love and Light.

  103. Ellen F

    My moonstone made my 3rd eye burn and sent shocks through my forehead. I had to take it off and rub my head after just a few minutes. I wear it in a ring all day but had the adverse reaction with my 3rd eye. Very unexpected. Healing trauma from a recent relationship right now so working on multiple chakra points.

  104. Cherry Blackmore

    Hi Ellen,

    I think perhaps you’ve answered your own question: you state that you’re working on healing trauma from a recent relationship; your Moonstone is trying to help you heal it. I recommend you employ Rose Quartz and Amethyst instead to help your healing process, and give it some time before you try the Moonstone on your third eye again — its effect on that chakra is probably too strong for you in your current situation.

    Love and Light.

  105. Rebecca

    Just hoping someone might have some insight for me. I’m fairly new to using crystals on a regular basis (a few months in), so still absolutely in my learning process. I’ve found that I am extremely sensitive to quartz. Clear quartz especially. I end up buzzing inside with anxious energy, especially near my solar plexus, getting a dull headache in my brow chakra, and dizziness as well. I have cleaned and charged all of my crystals in numerous ways, using white sage, moonlight, water, brown rice, and selenite slab. After cleansing, I can feel that they are rejuvenated and refreshed.
    I have found that I do well with the ones that are cryptocrystalline quartz like carnelian, bloodstone and my jaspers. I get So many benefits from these. But the more macro crystalline quartz like citrine, tigers eye, smoky quartz and especially clear quartz, i have such strong reactions with. Even rose quartz makes me feel such extreme feelings of love and acceptance, I’m almost giddy with it, which is fine for a little while, but it soon (within about 2 hours) makes me feel the negative physical symptoms. I was able to work with my smoky quartz after a lot of coaxing and really talking and connecting with it, but even then the energy never felt quite right. The worst experience was with a small piece of clear quartz, I decided maybe I just needed to connect more with it, help us get to know each other more so that we could work together, so spent time with it, connecting and then put it in my pocket and went about my day. I went to a retirement party for a neighbor and almost as soon as I got there my anxiety spiked tenfold. It wasn’t long before I was in the bathroom having a full on panic attack. I haven’t had a panic attack like that in 20 years (I am 41).
    Truly, I’m just at a loss. I have always been someone who connects and communes so easily with different elements of nature, trees, flowers, wind, water. I’ve found most of my comfort and peace in life within nature and this kind of hurts a bit to be honest. It feels like a rejection of some kind. I’m been trying to find the logical answers, by caring for my stones as best I can, but nothing really seems to work with these different types of quartz.
    I fully allow for the fact that my chakras may not be in the best of health (I know I have work to do and growth to allow for) and that I am also a person who is extremely sensitive to all energies around me.. both of which could be contributing factors.
    I know this is long, but I’d be grateful for any insight anyone might have. Thank you in advance.

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      Its hard to now why people react they way they do but just something to consider. Quartz is an amplifier. If youre sensitive it might have icreased that at the party. Some quartz is very high vibe and might be too much for some people. Perhaps stick to the ones that are working for you for a while and only test others out for very short periods of time at home.

      1. Rebecca

        Thanks for this (and for your website, it’s really helped me get going in my crystal journey). I like the idea of testing out the ones I’m more sensitive to just at home, and for short time increments. I have more control over my environment there as well. Thank you Ethan.

    2. Cherry

      Rebecca, this is actually not all that unusual. If you’re sensitive – as I am – to energies of place, and you’re new to crystals, the strength and the amplification powers of Clear Quartz may be too much for the time being.

      I might suggest Milky Quartz as a stepping stone; its energies are a softer version of Clear Quartz. Your approach, trying to cautiously accustom yourself to your crystal and vice versa, is sound; but have you perhaps considered working with a Clear Quartz tumblestone? Tumbled Quartz has the raw edges smoothed away both physically and energetically, and you may just find that more compatible.

      Love and Light.

  106. Cherry

    Oh, and – apologies, I only just thought of this after I pressed the Post button – if you happen to have/wear Diamond(s), I would recommend you remove them before working with your Quartz, in whatever form. Diamond is an amplifier too, but unlike Quartz it’s an indiscriminate one; it will amplify bad energy just as much as good, and if I had to guess, I’d say that wouldn’t be helpful for you.

    Love and Light.

  107. Rebecca

    Cherry, thanks for the suggestion of milky quartz, I’ll definitely look into that one. And the clear quartz that I was using on the day of the party is tumbled, circular, about 1.5 cm on each side. I do have 2 small points, each about an inch long, but I’ve never really felt comfortable with those enough to try working with them.

    Thank you mentioning the diamonds too. I don’t wear diamonds very often, ironically I’m not really a jewelry person.. but it’s definitely something to keep in mind. Will Quartz amplify bad energy as well?

    I’m thinking maybe I should store them separately from my other stones, if they are such strong amplifiers, could they be affecting my other stones? Currently I store all my stones in a large drawer, they are organized, mostly separated, but still in the same space. I do cleanse every stone before storing them again.

    Thank you so much for your help, I know these may be sort of putzy questions for more seasoned crystal users, so I truly appreciate it. I can always manage my energy best with more information. I’m starting to think this may be along the same lines of some of my other sensitivities and that quartz may just be too strong for me at this time. It’s kind of a bummer, because I love the idea of being able to utilize a “master healer” in my life, but truth be told, there are so many others that I truly mesh so well with.

  108. Cherry

    Hi again Rebecca,

    No, Quartz purifies and amplifies instead.

    As regards keeping your Quartzes separated, only you can really decide that, as it depends on your personal sensitivity. It may be a good idea!

    As far as the “Master Healer” epithet, it is true that Clear Quartz is a universal helper, but there are many others which deserve the title. It really all comes down to which crystals you’re best with. But don’t give up on Clear Quartz; it is possible that you just need some time to adapt to it.

    As far as putzy questions go, something my father taught me comes to mind: “There’s no such thing as a silly question, if you don’t know the answer.”

    If you need any more help, just let Ethan know (it’s his site, so therefore his priority); alternatively, if Ethan isn’t able to help, I keep an eye on this thread when I can, and I might be able to help instead… or as well.

    Love and Light.

  109. Rebecca

    Hello again Cherry,
    Thanks again for sharing your knowledge with me, it just really helped me put things into better perspective. I will not give up on quartz though! I’m going to just go more slowly, working with them little by little over time and hoping that will help.
    Your father sounds like a smart fella 🙂 Thanks for passing along his wisdom as well.
    And I’m actually just starting Ethan’s book on chakra healing. It really is a great read, I’d recommend it to anyone. Everything is written clearly and concisely, so much of what I’ve read on chakras thus far has been sort of abstract. His writing gives me confidence that even I can figure it out and manage my own well-being.
    If you read this as well Ethan, thanks for your books, I look forward to reading them all.
    Thanks again Cherry! Take care.

  110. Kaichi

    It’s so interesting to hear everyone’s experiences with various crystals! I’m a Reiki practitioner, and regularly cleanse my crystals with this energy. I’ve only had one bad reaction from a crystal, and it was amethyst. It was in the form of beads on a bracelet, and was given to me as a gift. I cleansed it before wearing it, and yet, the moment I put it on my wrist, it hurt like the dickens! Felt as if it was trying to squeeze my wrist in two. So I took it off and placed it on a chest in the bedroom. A little later, I came back to find the bracelet gone. I had no pets at the time, and no one ever went into my room except for me, but this bracelet had just leapt, on its own, off of the chest. I found it under the bed, several feet away from the chest, and almost out of my reach. It “bit” me when I grabbed it from under the bed, and literally fell to pieces in my hand. The beads were still intact, but the band it was on disintegrated. I apologized to it, in case it was offended in some way, then cleansed it again, and placed it in a dish at the window, so that it could receive moonlight. Next morning, it was gone, again! I found it under a desk, and once, again, it bit me, when I retrieved it. I did yet another Reiki cleanse and another moonlight cleanse in a different room, and that following morning, the beads were just gone. That was several years ago, and I have yet to find them! I think it just hated me and wanted away from me, so it took itself out of my sphere. I now have a bad feeling, anytime I look at amethyst, even in online photos.

    On the contrary, rose quartz, obsidian, and clear quartz absolutely love me. So does real green jade. As of now, the only one that has ever been incompatible with me was amethyst.

    1. Cherry Blackmore

      Kaichi, there may be another explanation.

      I’d find it difficult to be sure without whispering those beads myself, but it could be that your bracelet was one of those crystals (it’s possible the beads were carved from a single stone) which is meant to be, and work, with just the one specific soul. Which apparently, unfortunately, isn’t you.

      Some few crystals (I have no idea how frequently this occurs, but it seems uncommon) are special to one individual, and will refuse – often quite shockingly – to work with anyone else. Your mention of the beads energetically biting you, puts me strongly in mind of a crystal of mine, a Clear Quartz, which came to me way back in 1995. As soon as I saw it, I couldn’t wrench my eyes away from it, and I knew straight away that I had to have it. The instant I first held it, we bonded (which usually takes slightly longer than a fraction of a second); and when I got it home later that day – it appeared in the crystal shop in which I was working part time – my mother and grandmother both tried to say hello to it, only to find that it sent electric shocks up both their arms, along with a stern message (and unlike me, neither of them was a whisperer): “PUT ME DOWN!” The same happened with my then-boyfriend, now-husband, who’s very respectful and not a little wary of it; and years later, it happened again with a friend of mine, a Reiki healer. This crystal quite vehemently refuses to deal with anyone else at all.

      I think that’s what’s happening here.

      Also, the bracelet could be using you as a stepping stone to its destined owner; if so, another aspect of the energetic biting could be its preventing a bond from forming between you. Crystals know how heartbreaking it is when they have to leave a human with whom they’ve bonded, and they don’t like to hurt us, so they’ll go quite a long way to prevent that bond from forming, and thus prevent the hurt.

      Love and Light.

      1. Kaichi Satake

        Thanks for the reply, Cherry! That makes perfect sense. I’m sure that’s what was going on, as I have recently gotten another small amethyst in a set of chakra stones, and it has no “bite” at all. It feels quite lovely, so it was just that one bracelet. Crystals are so fascinating!

  111. Wood

    I’m a Jewelry. My first time reaction with this faceted crystal clear watermelon tourmaline size of a thumb. I was holding them in my hand checking for cutting and inclusions then suddenly, I feel like my energy drain out of my body. I have to tell my supplier to put it back after so in few minutes I feel normal again. It’s very strange, I have been looking for reason behind it and stumble on your article. I’ll be more mindful next time when I checking them.

    1. Cherry

      Tourmaline is the Shire Horse of the crystal kingdom: powerful, yes, but also very gentle, protective and soothing. I have several Watermelon Tourmalines – among other varieties – and I’ve always turned to them in times of turmoil. My first was a pendant, which came to me back in 1990; it supported me through the healing process after my grandfather’s death, the slow disintegration of my parents’ marriage, and later my Ankylosing Spondylitis diagnosis.

      This energy draining phenomenom is one I’ve only encountered once thus far, and it wasn’t a Tourmaline, but a Citrine.

      It comes to me that, like that Citrine, the Watermelon Tourmaline you handled may have not been treated optimally. It might be that it had been stored in a dark place, or otherwise kept away from sources of re-energisation. Human energy is one such, so that Tourmaline, although it didn’t wish you any ill and definitely didn’t mean to be grabby, was probably desperate for energy. Think of someone who’s severely dehydrated: their instincts are demanding hydration, source notwithstanding. The Tourmaline’s situation was probably analogous.

      The aforementioned Citrine is one in my collection, and it had been kept in pitch darkness for fully nine months. Citrine being a Solar gem, this caused severe problems for it, and when I first picked it up it felt like handling a chunk of iceberg! Its colour was off, too: it should have been bright golden yellow, but it was a dull, dirty shade instead.

      I knew it was in big trouble, so I surrendered a large amount of my own energy to it. I did so willingly, knowing the probable consequences to myself; the crystal needed a startlingly high dose of restorative energy, one which left me drained all day, but I knew I had the strength to handle it, because what I gave to it was the energy of Love, and that is infinite in supply.

      I then decided that the Citrine was the crystal equivalent of a neglected child and I was going to play social worker; long story short, I got it out of there and gave it as much Sun energy as I could, which restored its colour and strength even before sundown that day. It remains with me, probably because it feels safe. I think the same will happen to that Tourmaline, and when it is restored, it will prove to be a valuable companion to whomever ends up with it.

      Love and Light.

  112. Chloe

    Hi, I recently bought a howlite bracelet and have tried to cleanse it in the full moon a few days ago. I wore it to bed last night for the first time and had some horrible dreams which I am really surprised about because I thought it was supposed to help aid sleep! Is this a sign that it needs further cleansing, or is it just my personal reaction to the stone?

    Any help would be hugely appreciated! Thank you 🙂

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      It’s possible but there is only one way to find out. You could cleanse the bracelet and try sleeping with it again. Make sure you don’t slip into fear though as that is also a cause of nightmares. Be positive but open minded.

    2. Cherry

      Chloe, I’d try a different cleansing method. Palo Santo or white sage might be good, or alternatively, if you can’t smudge (I can’t because of my Asthma), use sound: to gsha bells, Tibetan singing bowls (but keep the stones outside the bowl) or even just sing to them!

      Love and Light.

  113. Ali

    I always have a strong reaction to Flourite and am not sure why. I’ve tried it with multiple pieces and if I hold it for more than 30 seconds, I start to feel lightheaded and kinda drunk. It’s not a bad feeling, just a feeling of being “untethered” or lighter if that makes sense. If I hold it for about 5 minutes or more, I start to have beergoggle vision. In other words, my vision is kinda blurred and fractured as if I’ve had a lot of alcohol. Again, it’s not a bad feeling, just odd and very strong.

    I feel like its possible that the flourite is doing good things for me, just maybe that its really strong for me or possibly that I have a lot of work that needs done that it’s helping with which causes it to be a bit overwhelming. So I’ve never been sure how to use it without feeling drunk, lol.

    Anyone have any idea why this would be and how I could more safely use it?

    1. Cherry

      Hi Ali,

      It sounds like Fluorite, which is a very powerful crystal, is probably overwhelming you. It’s one of my soul crystals, so I never have problems with it, but Petalite did something similar to me the first time I encountered it. It was the clear variety, sometimes known as Castorite, and it was a pendant set with 7 faceted Petalite gems. It caused absent-mindedness, drastically reduced attention span, visual disturbances (things looking much brighter than they were – which, for someone who’s already photophobic, is pretty worrying – and also ripples like a heat haze), and even occasional loss of my sense of balance. I had to work slowly and carefully with it in order to accustom myself to it – and vice versa – before I could get its full benefits, but now I wouldn’t be without it, and have gone so far as to purchase a Pink Petalite tumblestone (with a colourless patch on one side) because of how helpful the pendant turned out to be!

      Fluorite’s main functions are mind-based, which can include perception-based; this is especially true of Purple Fluorite, but still true for any other colour, i.e. green, clear, pink, blue, yellow etc. It also helps protect against EMFs, but its primary functions are to do with logical thought, organisation, psychic ability (again, especially the purple, but also the blue) and learning — Fluorite is an excellent stone for students of any age, and indeed, one of mine helped me improve my school leaver’s exams very nicely. It’s also a very calming crystal, and has a very interesting property: it has a dual crystal matrix, which is why it can come in cubes or octahedra. (The cubic form would probably be best for you, if yours is raw as opposed to polished, because it seems to be energetically gentler.)

      That aside, I would recommend the same course of action I employed with the Petalite pendant: start out with limited exposure, say for the 30 seconds you mentioned, and slowly build up, spending longer periods of time working with the stone(s) as you become more used to their energy. With a little time and adjustment you can enjoy a very positive and beneficial relationship with this crystal.

      Love and Light.

  114. Marco

    I tried a piece of green fluorite, yesterday and slept with it on. 2 pieces were purchased, one felt very uplifting and the other felt absolutely dreadful to touch. The stone felt anguishing. So I cleansed it and it felt much much better. I actually felt good with the stone. However, over the next 24 hours, I slowly started to experience a number of negatives. I was not spared of that entire list up there on this page.

    I am a Capricorn and this is my first time with fluorite. My friend and I agreeded that the one I told them to take instead, (because the other felt anguishing) felt much much better and uplifting. They are sleeping well and feel great.

    Mine brought about terrible symptoms throughout the day and my left ankle where I placed it hurt on and off throughout the day, feeling its worst this morning.

    Now I dont know if it is a matter of the stone being incompatible, being too strong… or perhaps not strong enough for me… but my ankle hurt (past tense) quite a bit this morning.
    Yesterday I experienced a number of pains all over, but also, a great sense of personal peace.

    It makes me wonder if cleasing again will help or if as is written here, that it has done what it can for me and brought things to surface. What i do know is I felt compelled enough to unknot all my fancy knot work and promptly remove it this morning as it felt like it was full of bad energy.

    Makes me wonder because In the past ive needed to cleanse a bag of stones weekly to keep it feeling good.

    Is this fluorite possibly maxed out by me, and in need of a cleansing?
    I felt several intense experiences through out the past 24 hours and a dream that was rather peculiar in a not comforting way.
    I mean. I FEEL bothered now. The only bothing i felt when I wome up was how much my ankle ached. It was so uncomfortable and spiritually giving me wolf gnaw off its foot vibes. It had to come off right away, and I felt patient enough to not cut the cord, but rather unknot a lot of pretty knotwork Id done the morning prior.

    It felt electric in my hand this morning, and painful to hold in my hand.

    I wasnt feeling emotionally upset while wearing it, but I am now. I dont usually… well i should rephrase that, I have only few times ever felt something like this and that was experiemces with stones years ago. Cleansing them fixed that.

    Im wondering if it might need cleansing again after one days use… or if I should cut its cords and put it somewhere outside and leave.

    I mean… even the cleaning staff was sort of… mean, today. I nodded when I walked by, but certainly wasnt feeling my interactions with others felt nearly as good as days prior.

    Advice is welcome. Much thanks.

    1. Cherry

      Marco, with long experience of Fluorite, I’m inclined to think that more negative stone shouldn’t be with you.

      I wouldn’t normally recommend such a course of action but, rather than leaving a Mohs 4 crystal to the elements (from which it will inevitably suffer), you should perhaps keep it aside and wait. Someone will come along who’ll fall in love with it, and then you can set it free to be with them with your blessings.

      Love and Light.

  115. Rob Williams

    Yesterday I wore my smithsonite stone with three I’ve worn together regularly (malachite, spirit quartz and tektite) in not sure if it was a reaction or not, but I kept feeling a bit of pressure in my chest, I put the stones in the window as I usually do so they can catch the moonlight. I haven’t put them on today yet and I don’t have those feelings at all. I’ve worn the smithsonite with the spirit quartz with no issues on different days, I’ll try them again today and see what happens.

    Thank you

  116. Frenchie

    My boyfriend had this numb burning sensation when he held a selenite wand I had and when I reached out to feel and synchronize with his energy I felt it as well since it’s kinda my specialty. Is it healing or “cleaning” his energy or is this something different?

    1. Cherry

      Frenchie, I think there’s a compatibility issue at work here. Selenite is very powerful stuff, and it’s possible there’s a clash between his energies, and its.

      When I got my Spectrolite, my crystal newbie husband asked if he could say hello to it I handed it over, knowing his intentions were pure; but almost immediately he passed it back with a disturbed expression. When I asked what happened, he said it felt as if the tumblestone was trying to eat a hole in his hand! Happily I always keep Clear Quartz handy, and I used the one I had on me to neutralise the Spectrolite’s energy/ erase it from his. I love Spectrolite, so I simply asked my Clear Quartz to channel its energy back into me instead.

      Perhaps – unless of course your boyfriend has this issue with Clear Quartz, too – you could consider a similar technique (which it sounds like you’d be better than me at) should something similar happen again? Experimentation is really the only way to know which crystals any individual is/isn’t compatible with, so it’s probably as well to be prepared.

      Love and Light.

      Love and Light.

  117. Mattias

    So I just got some quartz crystals and some amethysts and even after cleansing the amethyst when I hold it, I feel some ache in the arm I’m holding it in, starting at the wrist and fingers, getting to the shoulder, and even a bit towards the chest/heart area. The ache is subtle yet present and fades over time when I put the amethyst down.
    It’s not a hot pain or something that feels worrisome but I feel like something is up and I’m not at all sure what that might be.

    1. Cherry

      Mattias, that is strange. There are a number of possible reasons, and hazarding a guess as to the right one, would be pointless without a little more information, such as:
      • Where you obtained the stone
      • What form it’s in (raw, tumbled, shaped, faceted etc)
      • What method you used to cleanse it.

      It could, for example, be that the Amethyst is unhappy for some reason (which wouldn’t necessarily be your fault); it could be that it isn’t meant for you, and is trying to prevent a bond from forming between you; it could be that the cleanse wasn’t as effective as you’d hoped, and the stone needs a deeper cleanse, or even actual healing work. (It wouldn’t be the first time: crystals sometimes get traumatised just like people; and just like people, they then need healing.)

      It could also, on another note, be trying to help you to heal something. For now, I can only suggest you try meditating with it (you don’t need to actually hold it, just have it close by) and see if anything surfaces. Other than that, I might be able to help, by remotely diagnosing the crystal – if Ethan (whose blog this is, after all) can’t – but I’d need at least some of the aforementioned information.

      Love and Light.

      1. Mana

        Hi Cherry,

        I have a similar reaction that Mattias describes but then I have it for every rock that i put in the palm of my hand. It is like energy shoots through my hand and arm and it is unpleasant. I feel like my body is repelling all rocks, but also geometric shapes and other tools of craft.

        I guess that my energy system is extremely sensitive, as it only accepts organic materials and metals. What are your thoughts on it?

        Love & Light,


  118. Toni

    Raw rose quartz make my skin irritate when I touch. What should I do? To get rid of it or have something else to do? Any idea pls?

  119. Mattias

    Yes, it was very strange, not an entirely negative feeling just a kind of faint ache.
    It is raw stones and I bought them through a webshop based here in Sweden, the stones themselves are imported from Brazil.
    I cleansed by first running under cold water for a few minutes and then placing the stones on a windowsill in the sun, I have since carried the stone in question and it seems like the ache I felt in my wrist from having it in my hand has faded a bit. So I recon there was something that needed my attention, tho that raises a few more questions about what would cause me pain in the heart.
    Thanks for answering Cherry.

  120. Stephen

    Hi All, Ethan 🙂

    I’m looking for some advice on some clear quartz wands (pendant) I have. Recently we moved and now when I enter my room it starts to feel heavy round my neck like its being pulled down. so being a little analytical I put it out and hung it and the weirdest thing happened! it started to kick very slightly in one direction from a full stop position, is this normal.

    hope you get back to me on this



    1. Cherry

      Hi Stephen,

      A Clear Quartz wand can, under the circumstances you describe, act as a pendulum — what’s happening here is a version of the time-honoured art of dowsing. The question, as you’ve no doubt already worked out, is what are you dowsing for? Consciously, nothing; and dowsing for a specific thing needs conscious intent. I think maybe the crystal is doing the dowsing itself, which is something they can do without intervention in certain situations.

      Usually when a crystal feels unduly heavy, it’s a sign that it’s picked up some negative energy; but in this case I’m not sure that’s the answer, although cleansing your Quartz will never do any harm. That’s the first thing I’d do in your circumstances.

      I’m wondering if perhaps your new home has some lingering bad energy in it, which is what the crystal is picking up. This is reasonably easy to cleanse, if it’s the case, and that’s the second thing I’d do in your circumstances.

      In many cases, when a pendulum shows the behaviour you wrote about, it is indicating something to you, and perhaps in this case the lean it’s displaying is in the direction of the source of the problem. It might be worth your while looking into the history of your home (unless of course it’s a new build), or even the site it was built on, and seeing if anything strange or unusual happened there.

      The only other thing that comes to mind is that your new abode may be on a ley line, and if so it may not be your crystal or your home that needs cleansing, but the ley line itself. If I’m right about this (disclaimer: I have 35 years’ experience with crystals, but I’m just a human being, and I do sometimes make mistakes), then it won’t be so easy to sort out, but with effort, it should be possible to make at least some difference.

      Cause notwithstanding, this definitely merits closer investigation, because it is indeed unusual for a pendant/pendulum to display a constant or frequent lean like that.

      Love and Light.

      1. Sam Hartridge

        Hi Stephen/Cherry, if, when you work out what is going on, it is the Ley Lines that need help cleansing, then call in the Earth Dragons to help with this as that is what they are here to help with, clearing and cleansing the planet of the low vibration that is stuck here. Love and light, Sam

  121. Chelsea Weekes

    Hey, I cleanse all of my new crystals as soon as I get home and I guess I have a very different feeling with my crystals with my energy compared to other people. For example, I own a rainbow quartz and when my friends who also own crystals held it they said it was to much energy, but when i homd it, I feel grounded and calm and not so floaty. I love clear quartz and almost all blue quartz for some reason to, they calm me down instantly, but as soon as I hold a rose quartz or an amethyst I get very angry and aggressive if I hold it for longer then 5 to 10 min. I have no idea what it means and I don’t know why I want to physically fight someone or start a fight but now I’m terrified of them, especially amethyst. It feels like a holecrucks necklace from Harry Potter. If anyone has any idea why I might feel that way please help because I know it’s love crystals so why do I get so angry with them?

    1. Cherry

      Hi Chelsea,

      The simple fact is that everyone – and I mean everyone – reacts differently to crystals. Lots of people love Turquoise, for example; I, although I do love it, cannot carry or wear it because it brings sometimes dangerous levels of bad luck.

      The likely reason for your low mood/irritability around these crystals is really simple: their energies aren’t compatible with yours, they don’t “mesh” together well. This may, as time goes by, change; but for now, if they make you feel like you’re wearing Slytherin’s locket, I would say they’re best avoided.

      Love and Light.

      1. Cherry

        Sorry Chelsea, I just realised on re-reading your post: if you’ve had some problems with violent people in your past, the Amethyst and Rose Quartz are likely trying to bring those feelings to the surface and help you to heal.

        If that isn’t the case, then I stand by my initial thoughts.

        Love and Light.

  122. Desirèe

    Hello! I had a question, but I’m not sure if anyone is around anymore to even address it, but… I have a rather large collection of crystals and stones, and recently put a bundle of them together in a jar with purified water to enhance the affects and dispel my intended energies for my full moon water. It was fine, the feel of it was so beautiful, but I noticed randomly the next day that the jar of water was extremely cold. I decided to leave it and see what happened, but the water continued to get colder until I took the gemstones out. They were all room temperature except the black obsidian I had. It was freezing cold. In my hand it immediately warmed, and actually felt really soothing. I was wondering if anyone has had this kind of reaction with a crystal or stone before? I know obsidian can absorb negativity as a grounding stone, but I’ve searched and come up empty with details about what temperature might mean or symbolize. Did it have to do with the moon water, or maybe the other gemstones it shared the jar with? I had Rose quartz, milky quartz, Amazonite, green chalcedony, and howlite in the jar as they were the stones with the meanings that aligned with my intention incantation and note. None of them seemed to clash, and the sensation of them together was wonderful, so I’m not sure the phenomenon with the obsidian. Any thoughts at all? If anyone is out there, please let me know!

    1. Cherry

      Hi Desirée,

      I also have a sizeable collection of crystals (I call them my family), but as there are any number of types which can be physically harmed by immersion in water (and one or two for which even contact with water can do damage), that isn’t something I do.

      The thing that occurs to me in your case is that normally, a freezing cold crystal is one that’s desperately low on energy. I have a lovely Citrine tumblestone which, when I first got it, had been kept in total darkness for nine months and was energetically ‘dead’; handling it felt like handling a piece of a glacier!

      It’s worth keeping in mind here what Obsidian is: silicate “glass” formed by a volcanic eruption which has subsequently solidified underwater. Because of that origin, it has a lot to do with the elements of Earth and Fire, a bit to do with the element of Water… but little to nothing to do with the Moon. You mentioned that you used Moon water in your jar, and I think the Obsidian was protesting being immersed in Lunar energy; it is possible, I’m told, for such to drain its energy. When it warmed in your hand, it was supplementing whatever it had left by drawing on your energy, which is exactly what my Citrine did, even though in legal terms it wasn’t actually mine at the time.

      Hopefully this is of some help to you; and I would definitely recommend being a tiny bit more cautious about Moon water and Earth/Fire crystals, even ones that solidified underwater.

      Love and Light.

  123. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

    I just to clarify why I don’t always respond to certain questions. Many people commenting on some of my articles over the years haven’t actually read them properly… The answers are right there in the blog post. It was kind of the point in me writing it. When this happens a lot (like here) I even add a Please Read Before Commenting section with more info which people still ignore… I am happy to answer questions if there is a lack of clarity, confusion or I didn’t cover something for example.

  124. Sandra

    I just had a bad experience with a black turmoline necklace I found in a parking lot, I picked it up and felt so nauseated and dizzy, carried for about 5mins until I realized what was happening. I set it down and left it back where I found it. It’s been about 30mins now and Im not sure how to clear this negative energy or stop feeling dizzy. Any suggestions on how to clear this energy from myself or how to feel better? I am a cancer sun and I am very sensitive to energy.

  125. Cherry

    Hi Sandra,

    You might also try eating and/or drinking. Black Tourmaline is an extremely powerful crystal whose main purpose is to erase and deflect negative energy. If by chance you’re going through a rough patch in your life right now (and if that is the case, you’re not by any means alone) then that could explain the feelings you got from the necklace: the crystal(s) could have been trying to shove all the negative energy out of your system. Alternatively, Black Tourmaline may be the wrong stone for you. In any event, you did the right thing by putting it back; given the reaction you had it’s clear that this particular piece was meant for someone else. I’d advise caution around Black Tourmaline in general, just in case.

    Love and Light.

  126. Maria Alles

    Namaste, Ethan,
    I loved this article, thank you for sharing all your knowledge with us.
    I have recently started using crystals and smudging as I could feel that my home was quite heavy with negative energy.
    I am suffering from sleep paralysis a lot and I read that black Tourmaline was also good to help with night terrors and anything related with sleep disorders, so I cleansed it and programmed my black turmaline to help me ease with this issue, but since then, I started feeling very anxious when I go to sleep and during the night, is like I can not fall completely asleep, i spend hours with my eyes closed and restless.
    I am not wearing the stone neither is near my bed as it sits on top of a Selenite disk in my living room altar.
    I feel ok during the day, though, is only happening when I’m in bed.
    Not sure what to do.
    Is the crystal helping me with my intention or would it be best to clear the crystal’s programming?
    I read your reply on Sandra’s comment, when yoy say that Black Tourmaline is a very powerful crystal, and now I’m a bit scared.
    Have I done anything wrong with this crytal?
    Please, help me!

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      It’s not something I would have expected to affect you that way (especially if it’s in another room) but not everyone is compatible with certain crystals. Anxiety can be caused by many things. I’ve not worked with crystals for sleep paralysis before but I find Citrine works for nightmares which are a similar energy. You could try that as an alternative if you want. Please see my blog post on the technique HERE.

      1. Maria Alles

        Hi Ethan,
        I really appreciate your response. Thank you so much for taking the time in replying to my comment, I really appreciate it.
        I will definitely try with Citrine and read your blog post.
        My question is… Is it recommended to remove the programming that I made to my black Tourmaline?
        Just to see if I feel better after that.
        I want to mention that when I started smudging and working on my crystals I felt a sense of peace and inner calm after a few days, a very nice and embracing feeling but when I programmed black Tourmaline with my intention for my sleep disorder, after a day or so, and maybe is a coincidence, but i received two salt lamps too that day, that inner peace and good feeling vanished, just like that!

        I believe that being new in this area leads me to many doubts and questions even though I make a lot of research daily and read loads of articles along with doing courses online etc, is always nice to be able to talk with an expert like you are in this field and have some advice.

        1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

          Yes, if you no longer want to work with that crystal for your intention due to what might be a bad reaction you should deprogram it. Then see how you feel and try something else once you feel ready. I just wanted to clarify that I think it was Cherry that said Black Tourmaline is very powerful, not me. It’s possible that these things (Black Tourmaline, salt lamps) are not connected. I would be careful about overthinking things, especially if you have a habit of worrying.

    2. Sam Hartridge

      Namaste Maria,

      These are just my opinions, but I only ever use Black Tourmaline as a protection and grounding stone. I am also not a lover of “programming” stones as I always ask them to work with me (or if I am gifting them then the receiver’s name) for my/their highest good. I find that “programming” a stone can mean that it won’t work as it should as you could be asking it to do something that it knows is wrong or is not for your highest good and if your wording or phrasing is not quite right then confusion can set in, but asking a stone to work with you for your highest good – then that is all that it does. Also for a stone to really work with you, it needs to be within your aura – if the stone is not even in your bedroom, then it is having to work awfully hard to project it’s energies to where you are sleeping. Please also double check to see what stones you do have in your bedroom that could be counter effective to good sleep – Amethyst is not a good stone for sleep – my suggestions would be selenite as it aids contact with the Angels, a Blue Lace Agate as that is gentle and calming, Angelite (again aids contact with the Angels) and your Black Tourmaline as that aids protection and grounding. All crystals are powerful my lovely, it is how they are used that is important, Black Tourmaline is powerful, but gentle and works with you to help you, whereas a Black Obsidian is powerful (but not so gentle) as it can “force” you to deal with issues that you may not be ready or willing to deal with. Good luck, you are on the right track and go as much as you can with your own instinct which has told you that something is not working right, so you are now looking for what will be right for you. Namaste, Sam

      1. Cherry

        I’d agree there, with the exception that Selenite gives me personally dire insomnia; as we autoimmune sufferers are prone to that in any case, I keep my two Selenites in the spare room next to my bedroom where they can get the full energy of the Moon but not have me tossing and turning. I not only keep a number of Amethysts under my pillow (including – and believe me I don’t recommend this for most people – a Brandberg Amethyst Sceptre) but also Brandberg Mercedes Black Tourmaline, Golden Healer Quartz, several Clear Quartzes, Lithium Quartz, Azeztulite, Labradorite, Galaxyite….. And that’s before you factor in the pendants which include another Lithium Quartz, Charoite (made both of these myself), Star Sapphire, Sky-Blue Topaz (a gift from the Universe, so I only take it off to bathe) Indicolite and others. How do I sleep? Fine, unless I have Selenite too close lol!

        You’re right about Black Tourmaline being gentle… well, sometimes. I just obtained a rather lovely piece, 3″ wide, 2″ tall and 2″ deep, and it’s terminated; trust me on this, that’s pure *power*. When I hold it, which of course I do in both hands, I get the loveliest but really strong tingles, not merely in my hand but all the way to my elbows! Then there’s my new Smoke Quartz pendant, straight from Vietnam and encrusted/embedded with Black Tourmaline. Powerful, heck yes, but like being held, like a baby, all safe and warm. Gorgeous.

        You know, if I’m honest, sometimes I prefer crystals to humans!

        Love and Light.

        Love and Light.

  127. Laura Hawker

    Hi I have been placing selenite on my forehead, behind my head and above my head. It makes that area go completely numb and it’s such a strange sensation. I am ok when I hold it in my hand or have it near me. Even after the crystal is removed the area will stay numb and I can’t feel myself touching the area for a few minutes after.

  128. Veronica

    I have all kinds of crystals and gemstones from agates to zoisite and absolutely love them all. I cannot sleep with amethyst at all, ever. Dreams are over the top vivid. I feel the energy of all stones. It’s mainly a goosebump chills and overwhelming joy with the exception of peach selenite. I got the warm fuzzy snuggly feeling from it. Moldavite, tektite, tourmaline, obsidian, kyanite, shungite all rock my world (no pun intended). Calcite….I’m over the top in love with. Himalayan salt lamps, however and the Himalayan chunks actually make my hands hurt painfully but I do successfully use it for cooking (it’s so delicious), cleansing my crystals, and in my ritual baths.

    1. Cherry

      Hi Veronica,

      I just got my own Moldavite, and I fully agree with you: a case of the warm and fuzzies! Yet a contact of mine in Australia had hers cause a huge argument between herself and a friend, during which she found out that the friend had been stealing money and even a few crystals from her. I think she was in need of having that pointed out, whereas my life – and, I’m inclined to think, yours too – is at peace; I’m heading for my 29th wedding anniversary, I know I’m loved, I have a nice home, all is well, and with any luck your personal life needs no more change than mine.

      Actually, I’ve been obtaining a lot of new crystals lately: Star Sapphire, Star Garnet, a beautiful wire wrapped Vietnamese Smoky Quartz which is encrusted and embedded with Black Tourmaline – another warm and fuzzy; I was cuddling it, and I felt like it was cuddling me -Seraphinite, Vivianite, Mango Quartz, Shangaan Smoky Elestial Sceptre Amethyst… Too many others to list here.

      I find myself repelled by Himalayan Salt, if I’m honest, particularly in lamp form. Somehow the energy isn’t right. However you aren’t the first to report being caused pain by one: someone else on here, some while ago, reported being tangibly burned by the stuff. As in, if I recall, it left red scotch marks on her hands. It is high energy stuff, so if it’s causing you pain, I’d say that’s a baseline incompatibility and advise you to leave it alone.

      Love and Light.

  129. Rebecca

    I visited a couple of crystal shops with my daughter and granddaughter. We were all browsing different areas and in our own spaces. I naturally was picking up stones that drew me in, and picked up a blue lace agate flame. I had it in my hand for maybe 30 seconds, and It happened as soon as I put it down and turned away.
    I immediately drew my breath hard, and started crying. I was also pretty disoriented. I got my composure back after a minute and I really hope no one saw me.
    Clould it mean I really need it, I’m suppressing, or I really don’t need it. I just turned 59 and I have never had anything like that happen before.

    1. Cherry

      Hi Rebecca,

      Ethan’s thoughts on this perfectly match my own: you and that stone need to be together.

      I suspect that Blue Lace Agate – a crystal which relates not only to the throat chakra but also, and only slightly less directly, to the heart – has come to you to help you heal something; to judge by what you experienced, it’s an emotional issue. Only you can know what that is, and it might be a past-life trauma, in which case you might not even be aware of it; but, whichever the answer, that flame has appeared in your life against the need to resolve it.

      I can’t tell you what to do, but if it was me, and I could afford it, I’d go back as soon as possible and bring that Blue Lace Agate home.

      Love and Light.

      P.S.: sooner than later would definitely be better; word is, supplies of Blue Lace Agate are running a bit low, and prices are liable to rise on the back of that rumour, true or fabricated.

  130. TigerM

    I haven’t had any negative effects from crystals. I have however lost a large piece of fluorite as soon as I opened the package it was in. I remember feeling disappointed it was green instead of purple (it was meant for a present for someone who liked purple). It’s like it understood me then went poof. I then had some crystals bought for me and fluorite was inside a box. It was like it tried to jump out but I managed to catch it. So I don’t like they like me very much lol. My fav Crystal combo is black obsidian and amazonite.

  131. Amanda Melancon

    So I bought a Ruby zoisite necklace. I am very drawn to this stone & wanted one that I could wear. I wore it up to the day I recently had surgery on my knee then put it back on that night after surgery. I have had my necklace less than a month as I am writing this. Last week I woke up to my zoisite being broken off my necklace. What could this mean? I want to fix it but am not sure if I should as I know usually when a crystal breaks that means it’s done it job.

    1. Cherry

      Amanda, that’s not always so.

      I’m 2017 I added a Black Tourmaline pendant to my collection, a flattened tetrahedron 3cm on a side, in a picture frame-type setting.

      To my utter dismay, late last year the setting snapped, and my Black Tourmaline – a beloved friend who’s helped me no end with both pain and negative energy and without whom I feel somewhat lost – fell onto a hard surface, and one corner sheared clean off. I have a close bond with this crystal, and I’m not afraid to tell you, I was absolutely devastated!

      Being a whisperer, I said sorry to him and asked if I could glue him back together, and he said yes. I need to get the setting fixed (or, preferably, redesigned, as it’s a poor piece of design that lets a pendant slip out of the back of its own setting), but he’s still my angel… but now he’s actually more powerful again!

  132. Liz

    When I first was introduced to crystals sodalite was the very first one I was drawn to. It took some time but I finally bought it after buying multiple crystals with positive experiences. However every time I picked it up and held it for a couple minute, my head would start hurting or I would always feel nauseous. I’ve cleared it many times and have tried multiple methods. But when I find myself in shops, I would try to pick one up and would get the same issue. So I have a feeling it’s incompatible in some way. It’s disappointing because I don’t know what the issue is, especially since I am called to it multiple times throughout the years. I have had experience with crystals that are strong in energy, create imbalance/disorder, or help clear energies; but sodalite remains the only one I have this unique reaction to. I still like the stone even though I can’t be near it.

    1. Cherry

      Hi Liz,

      I’ve heard of people who wish to work with a particular crystal, but find themselves unable, but never before this have I heard of someone being energetically drawn to a crystal – a connection the crystal usually creates for itself – and then experiencing the symptoms you describe.

      One thing comes to mind, reading your post: your third eye chakra may be blocked or polluted with negative energy. Certain powerful crystals can, in the course of trying to help us, produce what at first seem to be negative effects but what ultimately turn out to be helpful ones; I think this is Sodalite with you, and the reason it called to you – perhaps one among many – is that it’s the right crystal for the job. I’ll give you an extreme example: a contact of mine in Australia got her first Moldavite last year (I got mine last week), and under its influence she had a massive argument with a good friend of hers… and, in the course of said argument, uncovered that the friend had been stealing from her; Moldavite can, where necessary, usher in dramatic change. Sodalite doesn’t, to the best of my knowledge, act in such a dramatic fashion, but it is powerful. If I’m right – and I may not be – and your third eye is in need of clearing out, the effects, like headaches and nausea, will subside once energy can flow freely through.

      Basically, keep at it. You well might find yourself surprised!

      Love and Light.

      1. Liz

        Hi Cherry,

        Thank you for your reply.

        I actually went into my drawer, where I stored my sodalite and picked it up, right after writing my comment. I felt a really strong energy flowing into my veins. I put it down after a few minutes and then picked it up again after an hour or so…apparently reading this article was at the right timing because now I have no issues with it so far (I seriously would have not considered to use it otherwise). I do have a tightness in my throat which I am familiar with because I have issues with communication, but it definitely has helped me with staying focused.

        It may be similar to what you guessed. I most definitely was probably having a reaction to its energy trying to help clear out energies.. I am reflecting over the memories of how it felt with the bad reactions and it definitely pertained to unfocused/disorganized feeling that resulted into the nausea and headaches. All happened at the same time so this is probably why I never understood the underlying meaning of the negative reaction. It now makes sense why this was the reaction as I do know I had/have issues with my thoughts.

        Thankfully I can try working with sodalite. It has definitely come at a time where I would need it and probably ready for it. I am familiar with work with crystals that start off clearing and working with them to clear blocks, but maybe sodalite need a longer time or I was to impatient. Lots of years working on myself so I may have not been ready for it back then.

  133. Mandy

    I have a Tourmalinated Quartz necklace. Irs about 8mm round sphere. I love the looks of it but when I wear it, the crystal feels heavy. Not weight heavy but the energy feels heavy. I find then when I go to pick out a necklace for the day. I find myself not wanting to wear that one because of the weight. I just don’t feel as good when I wear it compared to when I wear my ametrine necklace or even no necklace.

  134. Cherry

    Hi Mandy,
    I can give you one piece of advice here, and it’s *cleanse.* As you state, the energy feels heavy, and I can guess it’s almost as if the stones suddenly got denser. This means they’re carrying some form of negative energy which, if you were to wear your necklace as things are, would only jump to you.

    Tourmalined Quartz is probably best smudged, if you can (I know I can’t – I’m asthmatic, so I’m probably more aware than some people of the potential breathing issues around smudging, to say nothing of fire alarms, annoyed neighbours and cheesed off landlords); or if not, run for a short time (less than a minute) under flowing water, in either case while affirming in your own words that you’re removing any energy not intrinsic to it or you.

    Love and Light.

  135. Rina

    Hi, great article. I seem to have negative effects with green aventurine. I tried from 3 different sources and still having the same symptoms when wearing it or meditating with it. I become super anxious and have lots of negative thoughts. I got it because I need some extra luck in finding a new job. I love peridot and tiger eye for me. Always gives me lots of positive energy and reduces stress. I have rose quartz, clear quartz and amythist in my daughter’s room and that works well for her. Can the clear quartz in my daughter’s room not mix with green aventurine that I wear ? Or it wouldn’t have any issues since they aren’t next to each other ? I think I should just give up on the green aventurine.

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      There are other stones that do the same job as Green Aventurine such as Green Jade. Im not sure what you mean about the Quartz but if you saw my Q&A on youtube, I do not believe that you cant mix Green Aventurine and Quartz, they are both Quartz minerals… Yes Quartz is an enhancer but A piece of Quartz in a room isnt likely to amplify other cystals you are wearing. Its if you were wearing/carrying both Aventurine with Clear Quartz then yes it would have that effect.

  136. Amie Park

    Hi – I cleansed ALL of my crystals last night under the full moon for the first time EVER. I only got them as a teenager and never knew they needed cleansing and then in-between then and now they have been in the possession of my mother without my knowledge. So I cleansed them all last night as soon as I looked into it… however, today when arranging them on my crystal plate, after touching every one of them, I felt a tidal wave of weird energy cross my entire body, feeling a bit dizzy, my head hurts slightly and just made me feel ‘too much’ energy. Because I touched every crystal I can’t determine whether it was just one or all of them emitting this powerful energy on me, and to be honest, right now I don’t want to go back and ‘test’ each one… is this something that can happen after cleansing them all? What could it mean? I cleansed them in hope that whatever negative energy that has been transferred and stored in them all these years has now been gotten rid of, I have been having health issues for a few years now, whilst sleeping next to them all, and I don’t know whether cleansing them and feeling this intense energy off them is a good thing?? Meaning that one, a few or all of them are now starting to help me heal and purge negative energy in my body?? Just from touching each of them briefly?? I have never experienced anything like it and would love any informed thoughts on this please!

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      Hi, saw your second post about this too this morning. The first time someone leaves a comment it’s held for approval because of spam, trolls etc. What you describe does not sound like negative energy to me. It could be like you said, overwhelm of touching so many of your crystals, maybe because you’re not used to it. This happens at gem shows often. The other is, its possible after the cleanse they sent you a big wave of spiritual energy that made you ungrounded for a while (this can happen seeing a healer sometimes). If you use sound to cleanse crystals you dont need to move them all or touch them every time. Also, I dont recommend sleeping near lots of crystals as its a lot of energy. If you cant reduce the ones in your bedroom, place them far away from your head and it should be okay.

      1. Amie Park

        Thank-you so much for all this information Ethan. So it’s not something I should be concerned about… experiencing this has made me feel a bit apprehensive about re-approaching any of my crystals though which I don’t like… I don’t want to avoid them, I want to work with them! I think part of this apprehension comes from a realisation I had that my partner was the one to bring them in from outside after cleansing them and he touched them all very briefly to put back in their box to give them back to me… I’m now concerned thinking ‘what if he shouldn’t have even touched them at all because of potential energy transfer?’ Am I right to be thinking this? Do I need to cleanse them again before using them or should they be fine for me to use still now? Thanks in advance.

          1. Amie

            Thank-you for sharing this link to your cleansing page! I’m finding your information so interesting and helpful Ethan so thank-you so much! Are there any particular crystals that I should avoid having in my bedroom for sleep? Because I’ve noticed I am not able to sleep well a lot recently so I am naturally now thinking it may well be to do with some of the crystals I have…

    2. Samantha Hartridge

      Hi Amie,
      I agree with Ethan, but would like to add that it would be great to set an intention with all your crystals now that they are back in your care – very simply, just be with them and gently ask them to work with you for your highest good, that way they won’t overwhelm you all at once, which is what I think is happening. They will be happy to be back in your care, they are cleansed of all negative energy and are now wanting to work with you, so their eager excitement is probably overwhelming right now. Go with your instinct as to which ones you want to work with, and you may not want to work with any at the moment and that is ok too, just let them do their “thing” in the background where you can get to know them and their energy.
      I do agree with Ethan about having crystals in the bedroom and sleeping next to you, I do have some, but they are gentle stones that won’t interfere with sleep, so rose quartz is ok, selenite is great, clear quartz, angelite, they are all ok, but I don’t advocate Amethyst in the bedroom as it can impact on sleep.
      If you have any more questions, please just ask and take your time with your crystals and remember that crystals come into our lives for lots of reasons and some are to just sit in the house/room and do their work, some are to help balance energies, but you don’t need to “work” with each and every one of them all of the time.
      I am also a firm believer of using sound as a cleanser and a reset of energies – I find it works well and you can do lots at a time, the sound tends to help re-calibrate the crystals better (as I said this is my opinion and what I work with and advocate – there are lots of different ways and you will find your way and what works best for you as you move forward with your life)
      And remember to ground yourself before you start working with your crystals (that’s really important to do on a daily basis).
      Sending love and light your way 🙂

  137. S

    Hi both,

    Lovely article.

    I have been wearing a clear quartz on my ring finger since a few months in the hope of attracting a healthy balanced relationship. I also had a small clear quartz tower by my bedside which broke into two clean pieces after a met someone I currently like. There were no chips and it accidentally fell from my hands when changing it’s placement. The two pieces still fit together perfectly well and I read that Clear quartz crystals often break when their work is done. So with good positive vibes, i buried it in my backyard.

    I then wore a rose quartz on my ring finger two days back and moved my clear quartz ring to my index finger. The last two days have been strangely very warm with so many close friends coming back in contact and even new friends reaching out after wearing the ring. But sadly at the same time I’ve also developed dizziness, nausea and headaches. The rose quartz (on rimg finger) is double of the clear quartz ring that I’ve now moved from ring to index finger. I have enjoyed the pull this rose quartz has on attracting loving people into my life but I’m worried about the health effects it’s having. I did not clean any of the crystals ever. What do you suggest i do? Also open to buying a smaller rose quartz if that helps. I have never felt so dizzy in my life.

    I am highly sensitive to energies and in the past have had extremely adverse experiences with wearing Opal. Diamond has always suited me and so have emerald and clear quartz. I have not tried other stones.

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      All my suggestions on testing to see if its really the crystal or something else completely unrelated are in the article and need you to try them out. Not cleansing crystals is a bad idea so that may well be the cause (Not the crystal but negative energy it absorbed). I recommend you read my beginners guide to cleansing if you wish to work with the healing or manifesting properties of these stones or invest in any more:

  138. Sakile

    Hi there! Thank you for this amazing article. I had an odd experience with crystals. I bought a chakra balancing necklace with 7 crystals when I was pregnant. As soon as I put it on, I started having contractions. So I returned it for a different pendant, and the same thing happened. I noticed, that if I wore crystals or stones like red jasper, tiger eye, tourmaline, or smoky quartz I would begin having uterine contractions. Fast forward, 12 years, I bought a chakra balancing organite pendant. When I wore it, I began cramping. My menses was coming, but I do not normally get cramps and then it continued after my menses ended and with daily spotting. I was there is red jasper and tiger eye in this one. I have been getting orgonite custom-made with blue, green, yellow, pink, and golden crystals, no problem. I am wondering, why can I not wear it. The rest of my family is fine. Is there some extra work I can do spiritually, so I can wear these beautiful stones . Thank you so much! Truly!

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      This is unusual but sounds like the issue is with lower chakra crystals. Crystals associated with root and sacral chakras are connected to those parts of the body, so it makes sense. I would work with the colours that are compatible with your energy.

  139. Katriona apple

    I had just a couple of crystals starting my new journey into crystals and i cleansed them activated them and they were working perfectly. I tried to commit suicide at one point my mental health was so bad however since i acquired these crystals i feel so much better and in such a better place mentally. I started doing yoga and meditation as well. A what I thought was a very close friend herd I was getting into crystals so she gave me a few of hers I’m assuming to be nice n helpful however ever since she has given them to me nothing but awful things are happening back to back husband lost his job rental company trying to evict us Even though we paid the set amount they requested to stop the eviction they still wants to proceed i was served with two different summons for court one of the court dates I am facing jail time for something that I had no control of didn’t do and was over a year ago but in getting blammed my mom n me are fighting and I noticed my migraines are coming back I have had brain surgery before I used to get them really bad n I get dizzy all the time now husband I noticed has started to become short tempered and more angry all the time n he is never like that he is so sweet list goes on but seems like everyday something new is happening everyday that’s bad. The girl who gave them to me has a history of trauma severe health problems legal issues and personal development I’m currently trying to clean and cleanse the crystals and then going to re activate and re charge them with my husband and I good intentions do u think that will help bc I don’t wanna loose hope bc whenni first started this journey it gave me so much hope and positivity she gave me an amethyst citrine rose quarts saten spar please let me know what I should do any advice is very much appreciated

    1. Ethan Lazzerini Post author

      I would just cleanse and consecrate the new crystals and see how that goes. You must be careful not to assume that any of these events were caused by the crystals as they may be unrelated. Please look after yourself and try to have faith that things will improve in time.

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