This crystal grid for letting go will help you to release your attachment to an ex-partner or lover. Allow these crystals to support you with your desire to move on with your life and heal any pain from the past.
I am often asked about crystals for letting go of an ex or past relationship. I recently ran a poll on my Instagram and Facebook Page, asking what the next crystal grid people wanted me to design and share. This one won, so here it is for you.
UPDATE: This grid is one of the crystal grids found in my new book Crystal Grids Power 2.
Accepting The Healing Process
Before we get to the crystal grid, let’s get real about releasing someone we love. Letting go is not an overnight thing, there are no quick fixes. This crystal grid is designed to support the process of moving on and releasing the energetic connection.
This may take some time, depending on how deep and long the connection has existed, so accept that. Make sure your actions are aligned with your intention or the grid has little effect. I will include an article with advice from a psychological point of view for letting go of an ex to help with this.

Crystal grid for letting go (pin to Pinterest)
The Heart Chakra Symbol
Energetic connections to an ex-partner or lover mostly link to your Heart Chakra, in the middle of your chest area. I have designed this crystal grid to focus on this area to help break the unhealthy connection and help you to move on. The template and base of this crystal grid is the ancient Sanskrit symbol of the Heart Chakra.
As you will see below, everything that goes into my crystal grids has a purpose and is not chosen just to look pretty:
What You Will Need:
1 Medium sized Black Obsidian Arrowhead
This helps sever the unwanted connection. If you can’t find this shape, then use another form (Standing Crystal Point or a Heart?).
3 Rose Quartz Tumble Stones
Rose Quartz is for comfort, heart healing and self love. These stones can be substituted with Pink Opal or Rhodonite.
3 Amazonite Tumble Stones
Amazonite supports healing and making a fresh start. These stones can be substituted with Lemon Chrysoprase, Moonstone or Lemon Quartz.
6 Smoky Quartz Crystal Points
Smoky Quartz clears negative energy and thoughts. These crystals can be substituted with Black Tourmaline or Tibetan Black Quartz Crystals.
Heart Chakra Crystal Grid Template (See below)
Using a Crystal Grid Template
I have created a FREE printable Crystal Grid Template that you can download and print yourself. You don’t need to sign up for anything. Just click the link below to download the PDF file. You can then print it out on some paper or card. Alternatively, you can use your own Heart Chakra template or base, or any Star of David template will do. You do not have to use a template, the crystals will still form the shape needed.
Click Here to download the Heart Chakra Crystal Grid Template!
Simple Crystal Grid Activation
If you already know how to activate a Crystal Grid, feel free to use your prefered method. Otherwise, to keep things nice and easy, I am going to show you a really simple method to activate the grid which does not use an Activation Wand. Activation programs or charges the crystals with your intention, so they can begin to do their work for you.
Before you begin, write on a small piece of paper a positive affirmation or statement of your intention. This could be something like “I release my mental, emotional and energetic connection to ……………… and move on to the next chapter of my life”.
How To Activate Your Crystal Grid For Letting Go:
1. Hold all your cleansed crystals and the note in your hands (or work in batches).
2. Close your eyes and take three deep breaths.
3. Raise your crystals up in front of your Third Eye Chakra (brow area).
4. Focus on your desired result, use visualisation and emotion. Say to yourself or out loud a statement of your intention like “I program this crystal grid to release my mental, emotional and energetic connection to ………………….. and move on to the next chapter of my life”.
5. Lastly arrange your crystals into position (see below).
Setting Up Your Grid For Letting Go
Now that your crystals are programmed and charged with your intention, all you have to do is arrange them. Use a flat surface that will not be easily disturbed. Please see the diagram above.
(1) The Black Obsidian Arrowhead goes into the centre, on top of your folded note and pointing upwards.
(2) Then the three Rose Quartz Tumble Stones can be placed around it, forming a triangle.
(3) Then the three Amazonite Tumble Stones can be placed around it, forming a triangle.
(4) Lastly, the six Smoky Quartz Crystals should be placed around the outside, pointing outwards.

Finished crystal grid for letting go of your ex
What Next?
The grid is left in place till you feel you have moved on. When you have finished with your Crystal Grid, remove the crystals and cleanse them. Remember to deactivate your grid before using the crystals for anything else. See my article on Deactivating Your Crystal Grid for more info.
Resources For Letting Go Of Your Ex
I have included a good article below by Psychology Today for further support for the healing process that I recommend you read, plus additional crystals that you could wear or carrry during this time:
5 Ways To Move On When You’re Still In Love With Your Ex
The Best Crystals for Self-Confidence & Empowerment
5 Crystals For The Heart Chakra & Emotional Healing
Hi, I would like a fertility grid! Thank you.
Hi Ethan,
What is that stone on the left lower corner before the key.
Thank you
Gabriela
It’s an Aragonite Cluster
Thanks for sending the light bulb moment! I am about to give myself a happiness assessment, after which I will be busy choosing my crystals. Please remember you are never too old to recognise the truth when it bites you.
Love Frances
How to detemind the right direction (headed in or out) of crystals in a crystal grid
I’m Vietnamese. Sorry if I write somnthing wrong about sentence aspect.
I think you messaged me elsewhere about this. I mostly work with crystal points, pointing outwards to manifest things, cleanse or to protect. Some people work differently, so it’s really up to you.
Thank you very much I am looking forward to trying this Sharon xx
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Hello Ethan, first of all, thank you so much for sharing all this information with us, I have one doubt about this grid, I don’t have smoky quartz crystal points, can I use tumbled stones instead?
Or black tourmaline tumbled stones? And, Its hard and expensive to find crystal shapes in my city, I dont have an arrowhead, but I have an oval shaped black obsidian, its like 3 or 4 inches big, can I use it?
Finally, can I make my own grid out of wood ir some other material? I’m a visual artist, but I’ve never used crystal grids before, so I don’t really know if I can make my own tools, I will love to, but I want to know if it is ok to do it.
Sorry if this are to many questions, I just wanna do things right. Again, thank you for sharing all this love with us. And excuse my grammar, I’m mexican and my inglish its kind of dusty.
Your English is very good, I would not have guessed. Yes, you can use tumbled Smoky Quartz as a substitute if you can’t find points or use Black Tourmaline. The Obsidian Mirror could work too, try it. Of course you can make your own crystal grid base if you know how to work wood or metal, it’s not something I know how to teach though. Good luck
Thank you for taking some time to answer my questions, I’m so exited to start making my own tools, I want to thank you again for share all this information, it’s been extremly helpfull for me and my life.
I’m so happy I found your blog, I send you best of wishes.
Can I keep the grid on sun or moon light for energizing?
If you want to, it is not needed to work though in my opinion. Also please note direct sunlight over time will fade many coloured crystals.